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I personally don't get it. If the OP is good enough to be a long term friend and casual sex partner, why isn't he good enough to date?
Sometimes, you're hooking up with someone who you just don't see a future in, but you enjoy their company enough to explore that part of them. This is not new to me, since I've friendzoned FWB's in my past. This was the first time where I've been friendzoned, and it gave me a new perspective on things. The best way to explain it, is I think people who have been relatively long-term single, they like what they like. Even if what they like means they'll be single long stretches of time. The idea of it is that when you meet that right person, it will all click and make sense. No different than other people who are in long-term relationships or marriage.
Weez, how often do y'all see each other, and do you sleep together every time you see each other?
It's mostly foreplay. I'd say lately we've seen each other 1-2 times a week if both of us were in town on the weekends. She invited me to watch a college baseball game on Tuesday. She paid for the tickets and she drove. I was already kinda pondering if this had legs and that day only intensified it. I think very different in those scenarios. Where for her it's a friendly gesture, but for me it tends to be more than a friendly gesture. Like I've said for years, I've generally kept my FWB's very routine. Hardly went outside of my place or her place to do anything. I may or may not cook dinner, but we're definitely not seen out in public with each other.
Me and this friend have known each other a long time and I graduated high school with her younger brother. We've had our own ups and downs through our decade long friendship, but these last few months things clicked on a different level for both of us. Conversation is easier, it's much more effortless, and we get along really well. I could invite her to something and she would say yes, no, and if she said no, she would at least say I'm open this day if we can move it. It felt like a good mixture of both people invested in growing the friendship. It seems like when I stopped online dating, I stopped giving off the neediness vibe, which she said I had that problem in spades in the past. She's not the reason I quit online dating though, I quit it because I wasn't making the best or right choices for myself.
She'd spend the night at my house, but she has sleep apnea, so she sleeps with the little machine on her head. To not drag it around, I tend to stay over at her place. I'm definitely not heartbroken over this or anything even close, but it's a new position for me to be in.
Mate I don't mean this rudely and just enquiring.... But you've talked about this lady before in previous threads in the past and mentioned her weight and the sex was becoming more and more obsolete quite a few times so do you think she can sense this and has influenced her choice in saying no?.
Personally if this rings true from experience a lady can tell when you've lost or are losing physical attraction to them so ^^^^ may have been a factor
I personally don't get it. If the OP is good enough to be a long term friend and casual sex partner, why isn't he good enough to date?
That would assume she sees him as good long term material.
I would assume "long term" would mean daddy and husband in this case.
Casual sex partner and husband/father do not always merit the same sets of credentials since they are not always trying to reach the same set of goals.
this (type of relationship) always runs the risk of each other becoming less important to one another, once the desire for sex shifts away or dies off for any reason there is little to keep each other involved.
You essentially just become "a friend" and everything else that brings you together stops being a factor in "why" you keep making time for one another.
Such is the life of any FWB situation. Your importance and role is only to please the others desires until another comes along that fills everything the other is actually looking for.
Last edited by rego00123; 04-21-2017 at 02:02 PM..
Mate I don't mean this rudely and just enquiring.... But you've talked about this lady before in previous threads in the past and mentioned her weight and the sex was becoming more and more obsolete quite a few times so do you think she can sense this and has influenced her choice in saying no?.
Personally if this rings true from experience a lady can tell when you've lost or are losing physical attraction to them so ^^^^ may have been a factor
Different woman. I've never communicated about this woman on here. Another FWB I had in the past. I've probably had 5 or so in my lifetime.
That would assume she sees him as good long term material.
I would assume "long term" would mean daddy and husband in this case.
Casual sex partner and husband/father do not always merit the same sets of credentials since they are not always trying to reach the same set of goals.
this (type of relationship) always runs the risk of each other becoming less important to one another, once the desire for sex shifts away or dies off for any reason there is little to keep each other involved.
You essentially just become "a friend" and everything else that brings you together stops being a factor in "why" you keep making time for one another.
Such is the life of any FWB situation. Your importance and role is only to please the others desires until another comes along that fills everything the other is actually looking for.
You are absolutely correct. I've been on both sides now. Hence why sometimes people push for more, because you know what the alternative is. I obviously know that when she meets that right person our friendship and hanging out will die down, but that's how I've obviously viewed friendships like these anyways. It's a mutual understanding for the both of us.
Is this the same FWB you said that you would cook breakfast with or go out to eat with?
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