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It sounds like you have some growing up to do. A miscarriage is a big thing, but to text about it so lightly? Honestly, I think it might be best for you to think about self development. Bringing children into the world is not something to joke about. Who your child's parent is, is something that you're stuck with for the rest of your life.
OP, this reminds me of an abusive relationship I was in. He was a narcissist who played the same blame game and came on really strong really fast. I also experienced the loss of 2 pregnancies with him, and he was an evil prick during my healing phases. I kept giving him 2nd and 3rd chances. Trust me, It will NOT get better.
Let yourself grieve and move on. Do not contact him again. Don't respond if he tries contacting you. I think the reason we fall for people like him is because we lack self worth and self respect. Seriously, think about it, if you were the best version of yourself, would you still choose this man? Doubt it.
He has NO respect for you and certainly no love. He can make up any excuse he wants but his reaction to the miscarriage and emergency says everything about him. He is a piece of sh** who will claim his next victim soon. The miscarriage was a blessing in disguise. You seriously dodged a bullet. You need to work on yourself now.
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OP, this reminds me of an abusive relationship I was in. He was a narcissist who played the same blame game and came on really strong really fast. I also experienced the loss of 2 pregnancies with him, and he was an evil prick during my healing phases. I kept giving him 2nd and 3rd chances. Trust me, It will NOT get better.
Let yourself grieve and move on. Do not contact him again. Don't respond if he tries contacting you. I think the reason we fall for people like him is because we lack self worth and self respect. Seriously, think about it, if you were the best version of yourself, would you still choose this man? Doubt it.
He has NO respect for you and certainly no love. He can make up any excuse he wants but his reaction to the miscarriage and emergency says everything about him. He is a piece of sh** who will claim his next visit soon. The miscarriage was a blessing in disguise. You seriously dodged a bullet. You need to work on yourself now.
I don't get how people just flip on a dime like this. This doesn't make any sense. Probably just best to move on. Maybe he got scared off at how fast things were progressing and decided he wanted out. That's about the only thing I can think of.
They don't.
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Originally Posted by CSD610
It appears you both like dramatics, you were talking about marriage and moving in together much too soon, neither of you should be drinking and please learn to spell the word because.
I urge you to cut all contact with him, use more birth control, stop drinking, stop being so dramatic in your life and stay out of any type of relationship until you have matured.
X1000. So much drama. Ugh.
OP then messages him again!
Maybe time for the OP to think about her part in attracting these losers.
From this & all the other threads, OP has a lot of growing up to do.
He came to my office last week and was crying saying he is sorry for not being there for me, he thought I was lying about miscarriage as his ex did lie to him about being pregnant and going through an abortion. Why the hell would I lie about such a serious thing? How mental one should be to do so??? Anyways, he was asking me if I could forget and forgive and if I can move on because he did not want to be slapped in the face with this if we move on, and asked me to think about it.
The next day he was going to go snowboarding and it was snowing real bad. He called me and talked to me for an hour and then said "It is snowing real bad and I should concentrate on driving, as roads are getting worse. I will text you once I get there." Well, he did not. To be honest, I was worried. Even if that would not be him but any other friend of mine I would still be worried because it was snowing real bad. The next morning I texted him "Hey, did you make it there?" He never responded back. Then I called him couple hours later and he did not pick up and turned off his phone later on.
Do I understand how one can act normal and be trying to fix things and cry about it one day, then ignore the other day? No.
I got an offer from a very successful company in Cali. At first I did not want to take the offer because I was still hoping things will get better (I know I know ...so stupid of me). But I did sign the contract and will be moving in Summer. I believe a new environment will help me to move on.
He came to my office last week and was crying saying he is sorry for not being there for me, he thought I was lying about miscarriage as his ex did lie to him about being pregnant and going through an abortion. Why the hell would I lie about such a serious thing? How mental one should be to do so??? Anyways, he was asking me if I could forget and forgive and if I can move on because he did not want to be slapped in the face with this if we move on, and asked me to think about it.
The next day he was going to go snowboarding and it was snowing real bad. He called me and talked to me for an hour and then said "It is snowing real bad and I should concentrate on driving, as roads are getting worse. I will text you once I get there." Well, he did not. To be honest, I was worried. Even if that would not be him but any other friend of mine I would still be worried because it was snowing real bad. The next morning I texted him "Hey, did you make it there?" He never responded back. Then I called him couple hours later and he did not pick up and turned off his phone later on.
Do I understand how one can act normal and be trying to fix things and cry about it one day, then ignore the other day? No. I got an offer from a very successful company in Cali. At first I did not want to take the offer because I was still hoping things will get better (I know I know ...so stupid of me). But I did sign the contract and will be moving in Summer. I believe a new environment will help me to move on.
Yes, this is probably for the best. Just continue to look forward and you'll do fine.
The snow phone call was probably just his attempt to one-up you after your miscarriage news; he needed to make YOU stew in it for a while, so he called you while he was driving in a horrible storm and then left you wondering if he even made it!!!!
Just more idiotic drama.
You should have blocked this guy after he treated you like sh*t the first 5 times. Allowing him to bring relationship drama into your office??? Um, no.
The snow phone call was probably just his attempt to one-up you after your miscarriage news; he needed to make YOU stew in it for a while, so he called you while he was driving in a horrible storm and then left you wondering if he even made it!!!!
Just more idiotic drama.
You should have blocked this guy after he treated you like sh*t the first 5 times. Allowing him to bring relationship drama into your office??? Um, no.
Delete, block, MOVE ON.
He texted me the next day saying "I am fine, just driving back home".
I am so done with him.
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