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Unless I have a college class with a woman I'm not asking her out. I don't talk to women I don't know at all because the cold approach is a shallow approach.
Not all of us are in college, so we have (had) to resort to other things, such as these "shallow" approaches.
Interesting... my entire family has suggested I start reading in public as a conversation starter.
If I really wanted to concentrate on my book, I'd read in my car... or on a bench far from other people. To read in the middle of a busy lunch area seems to be an invitation for chat.
Yeah, you never really know if someone is reading the book or just looking at a book to avoid looking around the room at other people while eating alone.
It could just be a prop. As NewYorker illustrated earlier, you never know till you make a casual comment and they reply to it.
Yeah, you never really know if someone is reading the book or just looking at a book to avoid looking around the room at other people while eating alone.
It could just be a prop. As NewYorker illustrated earlier, you never know till you make a casual comment and they reply to it.
I've noticed this expression gets used quite a bit around these parts. Do you not find it a little detached and clinical? 'The cold approach' seems even more so. Where do you people find the moxie to do such a thing?
Do you at least target (ugh!) people from your classes, workplaces or social clubs so you can strike up a conversation with some common ground? If not, what kind of conditioning process do you go through before you try to forge a connection with a stranger?
I always wonder if the people who take such a clinical approach aren't in fact, maybe somewhere on the autism scale, or they're in some other way, socially awkward. They're not naturally adept at striking up conversations, but they still want to meet the opposite sex...so they take some confidence from having these step by step approaches.
Interesting... my entire family has suggested I start reading in public as a conversation starter.
If I really wanted to concentrate on my book, I'd read in my car... or on a bench far from other people. To read in the middle of a busy lunch area seems to be an invitation for chat.
You kidding me? Even a no-shame "shallow" approacher like myself would never interrupt a woman enthralled in her book.
That would be like interrupting a man in the middle of watching his Pornhub. Lol
Yeah, you never really know if someone is reading the book or just looking at a book to avoid looking around the room at other people while eating alone.
It could just be a prop. As NewYorker illustrated earlier, you never know till you make a casual comment and they reply to it.
Yeah, I do see how that can work--if he says, "Great book" and she looks up, rolls her eyes and says, "yeah" before looking back down that's an answer, but if she's just killing time she could say, "Did you read it? What did you think about..." and then you're off. You probably can't tell just by looking though, but if she's sitting in a busy area of a public park, say, she might be more open to talk than if she's in a secluded corner.
I know if I'm reading at the airport, I've got one ear open for announcements and I'm not really trying to concentrate on the book. Reading on the plane might be a different story.
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You kidding me? Even a no-shame "shallow" approacher like myself would never interrupt a woman enthralled in her book.
That would be like interrupting a man in the middle of watching his Pornhub. Lol
If she's in a cafeteria-type place with excessive noise and over 100 people wandering around/eating lunch, do you really think she's enthralled? Who could concentrate in such conditions? I would assume the book is a prop.
Also - if a man is upset that a real-life woman is coming onto him, thus distracting him from watching virtual women on the internet, then humanity is DOOMED.
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You kidding me? Even a no-shame "shallow" approacher like myself would never interrupt a woman enthralled in her book.
That would be like interrupting a man in the middle of watching his Pornhub. Lol
No, it's not nearly as sticky.
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If she's in a cafeteria-type place with excessive noise and over 100 people wandering around/eating lunch, do you really think she's enthralled? Who could concentrate in such conditions? I would assume the book is a prop.
I can become enthralled with a book ANYWHERE. It usually is a sign that you don't wish to interact, but I think it was NewYorker earlier that gave a good way to interrupt.... politely.
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