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Uh oh. Now what? Yes, things didn't work but I had huge hand in messing those chances, so was no Angel/Choirboy back then.
Well, 2 of 3 gals that I'm aware of back home-- where I intend to relocate soon later this yr/early next, are avail. But the grown or semi-grown kids really turn me off. I was a bit immature partying & doing my gym things, etc. back when I dated all of them. Time changes all -- me too, as I'm not an irresponsible go-out-with-the-guys kinda guy anymore more.
Yet I wonder how, if at all, I should kind of just touch base w/ these gals? Since then I never really went on a dating scene for like almost 20 yrs now -- so they were my longest relationhips in my 20s & early 30s, & my BEST & WORST memories, haha, of yrs having fun & being excited w/ meeting new ladies back then. But now times have changed, so no idea if this is delusional or wishful -- or just the stuff in fantasy storybooks? Ok, that's my dilemma.
But, as the saying goes, "You only go 'round once -- so make it THE best you can", no?
I really know this topic will get crushed w/ lots of negativity but so be it.
Put simply; it is like the ADHD nightmare of past women in my life that I screwed up w/ -- while imbibing w/ the guys. Ha, where's the "guys" now? Gone... & w/ them -- I lost the gals too -- paying too much attention to the party guys. Dumb, I know.
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Uh oh. Now what? Yes, things didn't work but I had huge hand in messing those chances, so was no Angel/Choirboy back then.
Well, 2 of 3 gals that I'm aware of back home-- where I intend to relocate soon later this yr/early next, are avail. But the grown or semi-grown kids really turn me off. I was a bit immature partying & doing my gym things, etc. back when I dated all of them. Time changes all -- me too, as I'm not an irresponsible go-out-with-the-guys kinda guy anymore more.
Yet I wonder how, if at all, I should kind of just touch base w/ these gals? Since then I never really went on a dating scene for like almost 20 yrs now -- so they were my longest relationhips in my 20s & early 30s, & my BEST & WORST memories, haha, of yrs having fun & being excited w/ meeting new ladies back then. But now times have changed, so no idea if this is delusional or wishful -- or just the stuff in fantasy storybooks? Ok, that's my dilemma.
But, as the saying goes, "You only go 'round once -- so make it THE best you can", no?
I really know this topic will get crushed w/ lots of negativity but so be it.
All you can do is try your luck mate and see where the water lies.
However if the kids are a turn off plus as you messed up in the past that's probably how they would remember you by so in other words you'll be up against it from the start why would you want to pursue?
I'm not trying to put you off mate but just trying to be realistic
All you can do is try your luck mate and see where the water lies.
However if the kids are a turn off plus as you messed up in the past that's probably how they would remember you by so in other words you'll be up against it from the start why would you want to pursue?
I'm not trying to put you off mate but just trying to be realistic
Ey mate, haha, welcome aboard! UK has some gals too but never got there only Swissyland in 80s.
But yes maybe the kids are grown so it is not as they're living w/ mommy but still feel kind of weird seeing kids from a gal I dated -- that is NOT my kid. Hmmm, if you catch my drift...
Ey mate, haha, welcome aboard! UK has some gals too but never got there only Swissyland in 80s.
But yes maybe the kids are grown so it is not as they're living w/ mommy but still feel kind of weird seeing kids from a gal I dated -- that is NOT my kid. Hmmm, if you catch my drift...
Ha good to see ya dude!
Yes I know what you mean mate , In that case yes sod it go for it the worst they can do tell you to bugger off so why not indeed?
How have you got their contact details after so long? Phone/Facebook etc
Have you been drinking again? Why would you assume they'd be interested in dating you now just because they did decades ago?
Now I think of these things sober -- & carry them out drinking! HAHAHAAAAA...
Well look this way, nothing ventured nothing gained. I have enuf ex's that I could fill a niteclub. So why not go back to the stocked fishery & see if anyone is biting the love bait I'll cast sumhow.
It matters not how many times you strikeout going up to bat but it only takes ONE homerun to win the game, no?
Even if their kids are now adults, they are still a part of their life. So, if you can't handle the idea of a relationship with a woman who has kids, then you should not seek them out. If you think you're somehow going to keep their kids away while you're actively in a relationship with any of these women then you're very mistaken.
These women are probably looking for another good provider, but might not mind a quick roll in the hay. They'll be wanting to change you...
You'd be better off focusing on childless women you've never met.
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Dumb, I know.
