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Why change perfection? I was born pretty spectacular and do not feel the need to evolve and change into someone else.
You are not a noun. You are a verb, a state of being. Choosing to be a passive, inert lump without the desire to grow and become a richer, fuller person is not attractive to anyone. Consider that the next time you bemoan yet another relationship disaster on this forum rather that continue to blame bad luck.
I like that we have a significant overlap. We can find live music we both like, which I especially appreciate. Also, we lived all of our formative years before we met, so it's kind of nice to connect over all the musical history we share, even if we experienced it separately. Where we don't overlap, it's nice to have a separate musical identity.
Just asking this question because this came to mind as I was listening to my favorite music earlier today. One of the things that me and my boyfriend have in common is that we're both into the same type of music; and it's one of the many things that attracted me to him initially.
TBH, if my boyfriend only listened to country music, opera or any other type of music I wasn't into, I highly doubt that I would've been attracted enough to him to pursue anything further with him. Just being honest here, because I'm into pop, indie, r&b, K-Pop and some death metal...and if someone that I'm dating (or was considering dating) wasn't into at least *ONE* of the genres of music that I like and they were into something that I would never want to listen to, I probably wouldn't want to date them again.
If you're dating someone (or if you're on a meet & greet with them) and find out through your conversations with that person that their taste in music is NOT anywhere near what you like, would you not seek a second date with them OR would it not bother you what their taste in music is if you click with everything else about them?
Keep in mind that if you were to date and eventually enter into a relationship with a person who liked certain types of music that you were NOT into AT ALL, you'd be exposed to their favorite music on a regular basis and would have to tolerate it along with building a relationship with them.
Could you do it? Would you do it? If not, why?
it wouldn't bother me AT ALL if someone weren't into the same music as me but that's because i'm not passionate about music and music does not play a very important role in my life.
i could see if someone were into going to concerts and if music is important to someone, then i could understand them not wanting to date someone who has different tastes.
it depends what the "thing" is for different people. for me, i love going to the gym and working out, going running, exercising, so i personally would not be able to date someone who did not work out at all. whereas other people probably do not care about that. so depends on the person - could be being a "foodie", being into music, travelling, etc, etc.
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You are not a noun. You are a verb, a state of being. Choosing to be a passive, inert lump without the desire to grow and become a richer, fuller person is not attractive to anyone. Consider that the next time you bemoan yet another relationship disaster on this forum rather that continue to blame bad luck.
^^^^This.
I remember a time, only just a few years ago, when I was set in the types of music I wanted to listen to. Then, after hanging around some new friends I made and browsing through YouTube, I decided to try out some new genres of music I never considered before...and, I ended up loving it! Now, I have even MORE music to jam to and relax to. Had I refused to budge with regard to trying out new kinds of music, I would be missing out on SO much...
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it wouldn't bother me AT ALL if someone weren't into the same music as me but that's because i'm not passionate about music and music does not play a very important role in my life.
i could see if someone were into going to concerts and if music is important to someone, then i could understand them not wanting to date someone who has different tastes.
it depends what the "thing" is for different people. for me, i love going to the gym and working out, going running, exercising, so i personally would not be able to date someone who did not work out at all. whereas other people probably do not care about that. so depends on the person - could be being a "foodie", being into music, travelling, etc, etc.
I agree with you, Bell.
It depends on whatever that person's particular passion is as to who they choose to date who also shares that same passion. My passions are music, horror movies (especially any that are zombie related ), first person shooter military games on xbox and boating/fishing. If I could find a guy who even liked only ONE of my passions, I'd be a happy girl.
You are not a noun. You are a verb, a state of being. Choosing to be a passive, inert lump without the desire to grow and become a richer, fuller person is not attractive to anyone. Consider that the next time you bemoan yet another relationship disaster on this forum rather that continue to blame bad luck.
Music is a huge part of my life, but even I don't insist that they like the same music as me, since so few people do. I only ask that they tolerate it, like if I'm playing it in the car or something. And if they do, I'll gladly tolerate the top 40 hits they usually listen to.
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Music is going to be wayyyy down the list
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), first person shooter military games on xbox and boating/fishing. If I could find a guy who even liked only ONE of my passions, I'd be a happy girl. 
