Is my boyfriend obsessed with me? (dating, married, women, younger)
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So,I need help about my boyfriend who is creeping me out and making me furious.We have been together for almost two months.When it all started it was pretty cool,it took almost 4 dates for us to kiss.But then when we were ''officially together'' he started pushing so much pressure on me.He expects to go out all the time,for coffee and then beer at night and the fact is that Im on the university in a town 1 hour from my hometown and I only go to my hometown on weekends and that 2 days I wanna see my parents,my best friends and he is asking me on Monday what my plans are when I go to the town on Friday,it drives me nuts.It had been a month almost that I didnt see my best friend because I used to put him in the first place.
Thing two:Facebook messages,or I should call this spam better.
I'm not fond of facebook chat anymore.He is bombing me with messages all the damn time..And I have said to him so many times that Im not the facebook girl I have things to study and to do in general I cant be 24h on facebook and I dont want to but he doesnt seem to get it.He is always like, ''what are you doing right now'' or ''what are your plans for tonight'' and if i say to him that ''Ill go out for a beer'' he will insist to know with whom I am planning to go.He is just so obsessed I cant breath.AND, if Im late when I reply he will spam me like hell.Or,if im not on facebook for a couple of hours he is all like ''I was freaked out,I worried so much''
He is all like ''so,what do u want to discuss?'' and I have told him I dont like chatting on facebook.
Thing three: Gifts.He bought me a very expensive ticket for a concert he wants to go together,and I pretty appreciate that.But it makes me feel like he is trying to buy my feelings with it and I hate it.Plus,its just less than 2 months we are together,so its kinda ''too much'' for me.
He is 2,5 years younger than me,also.
Oh,and he makes so many plans for the future too.
Guys,I cant breath he is making me feel like im drowning,help me what I can do with him?
First, this should be in the relationships subforum.
The best help one can give is to talk to him about his behavior. If he understands that his behavior leaves little to no room for you to 'breath' and he is willing to change, then you can consider going on with this relationship.
If not, just end the relationship with him and move on. It's a waste of time and nerves really, nothing good will come from it.
you either dump him right away since he is making you really uncomfortable, or have a talk with him letting him know that you need a lot more personal space. Being too clingy is one of the worst things one can do to scare away the other person. One shouldn't behave like that even you two are in a deep relationship for 3 years.
Also maybe he is in a hurry to get married or something and you are just "dating". Should make that clear too.
Last edited by Rozenn; 05-04-2017 at 10:44 AM..
Reason: Thread moved
Some girls/women seem to enjoy being in a relationship with someone who is possessive. The fact that you are still in this relationship when this boy is showing such obsessive, bordering on stalking type of behavior, suggests to me you may fall into that category of girls/ women. His behavior sends some serious red flags and clearly has been from almost the beginning. Yet you are still with him. At this point, you could walk away from this very easily (most likely, unless he is that mentally unstable, in which case it could already be a bit dangerous). From observation, one of the things women (and men) often seem to enjoy by staying in such a relationship is the attention it affords them. They can talk about all the "creepy" behavior, share the drama, and "seek" people's advice (such as on a forum) when the obvious answer is to just walk away. Like I said, however, there is something that the "victim" of the obsessive behavior gets out of such a relationship that has her/him stay.
Good luck to you.
Why are you with this guy? You realize you don't have to continue the relationship, right? You're not trapped. It sounds like with your studies, plus visiting family on weekends, you don't have time for one, anyway.
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