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Old 05-07-2017, 03:10 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Update your resume and good luck.
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Old 05-07-2017, 03:10 PM
 
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Don't. I did this twice, 11 yrs apart. It ended both times the same way; she started seeing a coworker.

I told myself when I met the one I just got through with, that I wouldn't do it again. I took things super slow with with her. Once more, I got hurt.

Don't s*** where you eat. Its great advice. Take it from someone who learned the hard way.
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Old 05-07-2017, 05:38 PM
 
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LOL how good are you at tolerating awkwardness?
On a scale from 1-10, 10 being really good at tolerating awkwardness, I would have to say 1.

Ok, after reading the replies this doesn't sound like a good idea.

It seemed like a good idea because it was convenient. I don't meet to many ladies (unless they're cold strangers) so why not hook up with one in the office. I think I have to just be more outgoing and open up my options.
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Old 05-07-2017, 05:42 PM
 
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There's a girl at my office that I like. Should I pursue? What should I know? What are the cautions?
Pursue if you want, but if it does not work, then it could be awkward at best.
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Old 05-07-2017, 05:46 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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On a scale from 1-10, 10 being really good at tolerating awkwardness, I would have to say 1.

Ok, after reading the replies this doesn't sound like a good idea.

It seemed like a good idea because it was convenient. I don't meet to many ladies (unless they're cold strangers) so why not hook up with one in the office. I think I have to just be more outgoing and open up my options.
Ha....yeah, hookups not advised...bad intentions to begin with and just ripe for misunderstandings.
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Old 05-07-2017, 06:03 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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OP, did you expect 2017 to be different from 2016 in this regard? It isn't.
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Old 05-07-2017, 06:16 PM
 
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My guess it's about no different than any other time.

If things don't work out, there will be awkwardness, tension, foolishness, etc.
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Old 05-07-2017, 08:07 PM
 
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On a scale from 1-10, 10 being really good at tolerating awkwardness, I would have to say 1.

It seemed like a good idea because it was convenient. I don't meet to many ladies (unless they're cold strangers) so why not hook up with one in the office. I think I have to just be more outgoing and open up my options.
This is why university professors try to get involved with their students. The pickings seem to easy; they're right there. But doing that can get them fired. I've never understood why professors don't just get themselves a social life. Is it really so hard? The same with store employees who come on to their customers. Don't people have a life outside of work? Apparently, a lot of people don't.
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Old 05-07-2017, 08:29 PM
 
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There's a girl at my office that I like. Should I pursue? What should I know? What are the cautions?
We feel the same as we did in 2016.
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Old 05-07-2017, 08:31 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale
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There's a girl at my office that I like. Should I pursue? What should I know? What are the cautions?
This is a bad idea like texting and driving. I have over 18 years of work experience. For full-time employees and long-term contractors, it usually doesn't work out. The divorce rate is generally about 50%. The odds are also high for a relationship to fade with a breakup. A "relationship" at work will likely not last. When it ends, it is really awkward. Usually, one of the exes quits and gets "out of Dodge" so to speak.

But it happens. Many people do it. The majority of them fail at it. A few statistical outlying "exceptions" are able to make it work, but they are far and few in between.

I would recommend alternative scenarios: a coed gym, coed sports like softball or volleyball, a running group for young adults, hiking, etc.

I keep my relationships to the gym. There is no work-related soap opera about to explode. It's just the gym and very casual and low-key. There are many beautiful women in there. I met my girlfriend at the FSU campus gym when I was working as a state engineer in Tallahassee. At the time, I couldn't care less about dating a coworker because the gym had many, many opportunities every day (LOL).


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