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This is why we have all those discussions about chemistry. If your gut feeling isn't, "this is a guy I want to get to know better," then it's probably best to move on.
Very nice guy. Nice looking. Alas, he is not of average build as reported. He is a good 75 lbs overweight. And he has a pretty severe facial tic...which included his tongue sticking out a bit at times.
We had a nice time. Good sense of humor, intelligent guy. But he did seem very nervous. Sweaty. and the facial tic kind of waxed and waned but never disappeared. Is there a med for that? When I asked him what he did with his spare time he gave me a long list of activities at the gym followed by he reads a lot. I read a lot also so we had plenty to talk about. But I didn't want to hear about the gym. I meet guys who have hobbies and I meet guys who are sitting around waiting for someone to enter their life so they can start doing hobbies with that someone. And I meet guys who don't seem interested in doing stuff. This guy struck me as the third type...his hobby is reading.
And at the end of the evening he kissed me. Awkwardly. Twice. It was one of those, I'm clearly not going to have another chance with this gal so I'd better get it in now. I did not enjoy it.
I'm a kind person. I don't think there was anything inherently wrong with this guy. Am I really out of his league, or did I get that vibe from him because he was nervous/insecure? If I went out with him again would he be less nervous, or is this something he carries with him always?
Personally if I am nervous on a first date, and that doesn't go away after a few minutes with the guy, I tend not to be interested in a second date. I'd rather have no date than feel awkward around someone. and I assume I'm feeling awkward because I'm not connecting or my inner self is telling me I'm in over my head in some way.
That would be a big ole no to a second date. His type is why I only do coffee dates at first. And I can drink a cup very fast to get out of there when needed.
Very nice guy. Nice looking. Alas, he is not of average build as reported. He is a good 75 lbs overweight. And he has a pretty severe facial tic...which included his tongue sticking out a bit at times.
We had a nice time. Good sense of humor, intelligent guy. But he did seem very nervous. Sweaty. and the facial tic kind of waxed and waned but never disappeared. Is there a med for that? When I asked him what he did with his spare time he gave me a long list of activities at the gym followed by he reads a lot. I read a lot also so we had plenty to talk about. But I didn't want to hear about the gym. I meet guys who have hobbies and I meet guys who are sitting around waiting for someone to enter their life so they can start doing hobbies with that someone. And I meet guys who don't seem interested in doing stuff. This guy struck me as the third type...his hobby is reading.
And at the end of the evening he kissed me. Awkwardly. Twice. It was one of those, I'm clearly not going to have another chance with this gal so I'd better get it in now. I did not enjoy it.
I'm a kind person. I don't think there was anything inherently wrong with this guy. Am I really out of his league, or did I get that vibe from him because he was nervous/insecure? If I went out with him again would he be less nervous, or is this something he carries with him always?
Personally if I am nervous on a first date, and that doesn't go away after a few minutes with the guy, I tend not to be interested in a second date. I'd rather have no date than feel awkward around someone. and I assume I'm feeling awkward because I'm not connecting or my inner self is telling me I'm in over my head in some way.
Right so in short you're too good for him and you're trying to convince yourself out of going on the second date
Reasons he was nervous..... It may well be because you're " out of his league " and he wanted to make an impression, However it could quite easily be that you've not been very welcoming/easygoing etc that usually settles someone down and takes away the nerves therefore contributed to him being nervous
However it's all obsolete in truth with everything you've described it's a non starter as you've clearly got too many problems with him that can be overlooked.
I would give a nervous guy a 2nd chance, but not one I wasn't attracted to.
I think the deciding factor was the kiss you didn't like.
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A bad kiss is game over. Period. It's either there or it's not!
First kiss with my current partner (20 years) was pretty bad. She surprised me, we have a significant height difference neither was accustomed to, it was cold out, and so it was a teeth clicking, off balance, her nose nearly in my mouth kind of bad. Yet I'm still recovering, in the best possible way, from next night's events. So there's that.
I don't think it's a good match based on what you said
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