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In the south, though, I actually had a male work colleague open my car door on several occasions. Which is actually a bit over the line IMO, but I knew it was well-intended so I was grateful.
Jersey guys say "yous guys". The rest of northern men just say you guys.
And Philly guys say "yo," I believe. That's hilarious.
Back to the question at hand. I think there is. As a product of Los Angeles, I would identify as a Northerner and not as a Southerner, with that heavy-duty "pipeline" between the Northeast and So.Cal. There is NOT MUCH sugarcoating in Los Angeles.
When I lived in the Southeast for 2 years, northern women made a beeline for me. The rapport was instant. I saw southern women getting on better with southern men. There is a "code" there and I guess I will never get it, not that I care....
So, then, the southern guy will "sugarcoat" more than his northern counterpart. Perhaps that's how Bill Clinton got the label "Slick Willie." Nonpartisan here, for the most part, but he was so smooth, it was almost slimy. It was similar to talking to a southern realtor or car salesman that was "just as nice as he can be" (one of the great southern expressions, LOL).
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I lived in the deep south for 3 years. Without a doubt, those men are different from any other men that I've met. The women too. It tripped me out the first time (as a 26 or so year old), I was called "ma'am".
Is it a "better" thing? Obviously, since I'm now in the PNW and thoroughly enjoying myself, I don't think so.
It's not "sugarcoat" it's called respect and it's part of our upbringing, if you haven't been raised in the South than you wouldn't understand, a Southern gentleman will respect you as long as you respect him and even at that we would never say anything derogatory about a woman nor treat her unfairly, because our Mama would smack us upside our head if we did...
It's not "sugarcoat" it's called respect and it's part of our upbringing, if you haven't been raised in the South than you wouldn't understand...
No, the politeness and respect is very much appreciated. It really is. It becomes "sugarcoating" when you have an ongoing rapport with a southerner as a neighbor or a co-worker with whom you can let down your guard, and you feel like you're STILL getting the filtered version. A northerner, or a westerner, knows that they get "You're full of $hit" about 1/2 the time when dealing with someone they know well and are often glad to hear such constructive candor, so that they know something is WRONG when they NEVER hear such honesty coming from a southerner they know well.
Sidebar: I know an Alabamian, a good friend, who transplanted to the West 15 years ago and is now living in PHX. He is gradually becoming "Westernized," telling me with much more ease that I'm full of it, or unrealistic, or whatever. You gotta respect that!
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