Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Griff was absolutely correct in his post, by the way.
My issue was with a normal marriage in which I stated the problem and how I was planning on handling it.
There's a big difference between that, and creating a thread regarding an alternative lifestyle in a marriage which has thus become an utter mess, and yet professing such knowledge about said alternative lifestyle.
Are you going to assert that in THIS instance, you've got it all clear?
Even those who definitely do understand don't appear to with this one.
I think this is because each individual is different, even in this or that subculture. There's not one homogeneous line of thought, or interests a person may have.
I think this is because each individual is different, even in this or that subculture. There's not one homogeneous line of thought, or interests a person may have.
What is it about this particular movie that seems to really bother a lot of people, especially those that actually participate in or live this "lifestyle"? I do realize that hollywood made this movie...but, I wonder why most people say that this film is a TOTAL farce and that everything depicted in it is NOT what ANYONE experiences or participates in IRL?? How would they know what other people experience?
If he wasn't a billionaire, she wouldn't have given him the time of day.
Hollywood at its finest.
This was Twilight Fan Fiction, and as such is great.
As for real life? Not so much. Without the money, where would Mr. Grey be?
But, to each their own. I have my doubts that anyone who is actually dominant or submissive in their relationships lives this way. But what do I know? LOL
Griff was absolutely correct in his post, by the way.
Ditto on all accounts.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Griffis
Well, my wife is Alpha, and pretty domineering, but she's not my domme and I'm not her sub.
Indeed. I'm more dominant than my husband, but I'm not a Domme, and he's not a sub.
Quote:
Originally Posted by convextech
My issue was with a normal marriage in which I stated the problem and how I was planning on handling it.
And your "normal marriage" wasn't working by "normal standards."
Quote:
There's a big difference between that, and creating a thread regarding an alternative lifestyle in a marriage which has thus become an utter mess, and yet professing such knowledge about said alternative lifestyle.
*shrugs*
Nope. Non-monogamy is an "alternative" relationship dynamic, which may or may not include kink. He can have experience with non-monogamy, and yet limited or no experience with kink. Just because the "alternative" relationship culture encompasses diverse relationship dynamics does not mean all parties are involved in the same kink/relationship dynamic/fetish, etc.
Also, one can share basic knowledge, general consensus regarding ethical guidelines and yet not participate in said activities. Just like folks in less than healthy and happy marriages can understand the dynamics/functions/"rules"/principles of "normal" marriage and yet have a mess of a relationship.
And it doesn't take having a blemish-free relationship, of any kind, to understand the importance of consent, open communication, recognition of boundaries, etc. The knowledge he expressed is pretty basic. *shrug*
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
