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Not playing the number's game at all, that's why you have never been on a date.. Just yesterday I went up to a beautiful women at the grocery store and asked her for her number and she said she had a boyfriend... But I'm so use to rejection I am desensitized to it.... Which is a good thing. To help you get over you fear of spiders hold one, fear of height, go sky diving, fear of rejection, get rejected.. This is an actually common therapy.
Not playing the number's game at all, that's why you have never been on a date.. Just yesterday I went up to a beautiful women at the grocery store and asked her for her number and she said she had a boyfriend... But I'm so use to rejection I am desensitized to it.... Which is a good thing. To help you get over you fear of spiders hold one, fear of height, go sky diving, fear of rejection, get rejected.. This is an actually common therapy.
I know but I don't have the self confidence to approach a lot of random women. Plus I'm shy until I get to know somebody so cold approaching is not really something I thrive in.
I know but I don't have the self confidence to approach a lot of random women. Plus I'm shy until I get to know somebody so cold approaching is not really something I thrive in.
Neither did I... But you gotta put yourself out there and over time you will build a thicker skin towards rejection.
I just read last night actually, TRUE REJECTION isn't asking for a random girl's number and being denied, it's actually spending months or years with some only for them to leave you after already getting to know the actual you... Just something to think about...
The more you get shot down the less personal you take it.... Stop having a fragile ego, start small by asking a stranger for a dollar, or asking for a discount the next time you buy something.......
Looks is usually #2 or #3 or even lower on their list in what they look for in a guy. #1 is confidence.
Looks are nothing for a guy without confidence and assertiveness. Therefore if you have the latter two you're okay without good looks.
If you lack self esteem and confidence you won't get anywhere regardless of looks. It's your self esteem OP that's killing you with women, not your looks.
You said it yourself. Even if they are ugly, they won't settle for just any guy. You already said it yourself.
That's me
You're far from ugly
So it's got to be the way you carry yourself, hygiene, and/or your social skills.
(Admit it or not, we all can use some improvement in all areas now and then.)
I agree with the other poster... start going to the gym.
You'll build your physique and confidence at the same time.
Confidence is important - a woman wants to feel the guy can protect her.
If you get into the habit of going to the gym at the same time/day... you may meet girls there.
What about going to some meetups and/or asking a friend/aquaintance to critique you?
You'll have to be willing to be vulnerable.. but you have to be vulnerable to get a relationship going
I know but I don't have the self confidence to approach a lot of random women. Plus I'm shy until I get to know somebody so cold approaching is not really something I thrive in.
I used to be shy. This is something you can control. You put on your brave face, and you smile. You'd be surprised how many people will smile back at you, when you smile. Make small talk. If you think of something funny to say, then say it. People will respond. The more people respond, the braver and more confident you feel.
You'll always have that bit of shyness in the back of your head, but with practice, you control IT. Not the other way around.
I used to be shy. This is something you can control. You put on your brave face, and you smile. You'd be surprised how many people will smile back at you, when you smile. Make small talk. If you think of something funny to say, then say it. People will respond. The more people respond, the braver and more confident you feel.
You'll always have that bit of shyness in the back of your head, but with practice, you control IT. Not the other way around.
Well said!
I'd add it's one of those things in life like driving, or getting an education that's not absolutely necessary to live but it sure makes life a lot better. You just have to accept that it's not optional and do it no matter how hard it is. It will then get easier. I am kind of shy too and it took some doing to get over on it instead of letting it get over on me. Still working on it, matter of fact. Probably always will be. But it's not quite so hard anymore.
If you are a 2, you can go up to being a 6-7 by having a nice body.
But of course it is easier to eat chips and cry about how unfair the world is instead of putting in some effort and get your butt off the couch.
It is very difficult to have a lean muscular body. Actors you see in the movies are using steroids. Also, their job is to look good, they get paid for it.
I am the kind of guy girls would never date. I am an unattractive guy. I am 26 years old and I've never had a girlfriend in my life. Only in my dreams.
Most of girls don't even talk to me. When you are an unattractive guy, it is difficult to talk to girls. Girls don't like you.
If you quit acting like a sally, there's probably at least a fat chick in your future.
Fat chicks are usually great in bed too.......your loss
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