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I thought that's what guys do, give each other sh*t? She liked it!
I don;t think there's anything wrong with that, I compliment strangers all the time. I DO though think it is ineffective for a guy to make some Great Pronouncement of Feelings like a confession. Just hold her hands, look into her eyes and tell her to be ready for you to pick her up Friday at 8 for dinner. She will know he wants her romantically, there is no reason to go on and on about why he wants to take her out.
This is about "should I send (an e-mail, text, etc) to this friend and tell her my Feelings for her? That to me never works out. It's too much, especially without first building up any physical chemistry.
I thought some people got past the phase of teasing people cause they called someone attractive. Goes to show some people never grow up.
Yeah, but if you don't at least try, you'll never know. Better to take a chance and get shot down than do nothing at all. Sure, there's a chance that they won't feel what you do, but there's also a 50/50 chance that they might.
I advised OP to ask her out, just not to start out with the Great Pronouncement of Feelings. You can ask a girl out so she knows it's with romantic intentions without starting out sounding all super-serious like you're thinking about proposing to her before the first date. A light-hearted tone is always better, otherwise she's going to think you're going to be too intense too soon. If a girl thinks you're already attached to her before you even know her, she's going to feel an impulse to back up from that, not move towards it.
I thought some people got past the phase of teasing people cause they called someone attractive. Goes to show some people never grow up.
He might have just thought he was being funny. I talk and joke to strangers a lot, and sometimes I can see it didn't quite come off the way I intended.
I advised OP to ask her out, just not to start out with the Great Pronouncement of Feelings. You can ask a girl out so she knows it's with romantic intentions without starting out sounding all super-serious like you're thinking about proposing to her before the first date. A light-hearted tone is always better, otherwise she's going to think you're going to be too intense too soon. If a girl thinks you're already attached to her before you even know her, she's going to feel an impulse to back up from that, not move towards it.
This thread is a perfect example of how people say one thing online, or when they're giving advice, but do the opposite in life.
Everyone saying there's nothing wrong with it, but the reality is that there's nothing that turns a person off quicker than coming on too strong too fast.
That depends.. I am fine and enjoy it when I am equally interested. But if I do not like the guy, I am repulsed by them coming on too strong or even at all.
not to the right person, in the right way, and right time
I think this is the key. The right time does involve some moderation when one has not even been on a date yet. Maybe, hey want to get dinner? If that same conversation includes where it might lead... that is putting the cart before the horse. Do dinner first!
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