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Do any vows promise sexual exclusivity at all? I always heard things like love, cherish, honor, care for, etc at weddings.
Interesting thought.
I'll assume that "sexual exclusivity" is assumed.
But, as modern times tell us, there is no reason that it should be.
This is just one more factor that couples need to discuss when determining long-term compatibility.
I don't think anything has changed at all. There has always been a small segment of the population choosing "alternative lifestyles". It's becoming more acceptable to talk about it openly, so it seems as though the practice is new.
I will join the bandwagon and also say that there is no threat to Monogamy, it isn't going anywhere, and that the majority of people do want to be in a monogamous relationship with the right person. However, I have a lot of friends who are women, and they feel like the OP. My single friends have claimed guys have asked them if they would be open to joining him with another women, or be open to dating other people, OR men they are in relationships asking them to be swingers or have a poly relationship. And I guess it has happened often enough to them, that they think well that's what everyone is doing. I am sure in many relationships today, the subject may come up, and that people are saying they are interested in something different, but I think it is just people talking a lot about it, and not really actually doing it and/or guys just seeing if a woman they like would be open to it. At the end of the day, it's more talk, than people actually going through with it.
Historically, marriage has been used for all sorts of reasons, including political, power, status, and money, that often exclude the notion of love and companionship.
Yet... It is those that find a love in an open, poly, or whatever relationship that garners such criticism.
Can we just be happy for others who have found a different path to happiness?
Those that enter into a relationship (or marriage) are the ones who author its expectations and boundaries.
Historically, marriage has been used for all sorts of reasons, including political, power, status, and money, that often exclude the notion of love and companionship.
Yet... It is those that find a love in an open, poly, or whatever relationship that garners such criticism.
Can we just be happy for others who have found a different path to happiness?
Those that enter into a relationship (or marriage) are the ones who author its expectations and boundaries.
From what I've witnessed, people criticize marriages they suspect are for ANYTHING but love and companionship.
Personally, I don't really care. I may not understand their reasons, but I know it's not my business. People get married all the time. So it's not something to think twice about. I just say, "good for you/them," and keep it moving.
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