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Just this morning I found out that my ex, with whom I had been trying to rebuild something with, lied about his father dying.
Now, this isn't some "I had a bad childhood so I pretend my parents are dead" scenario. He told me he died last month, tried to borrow my car to go to the funeral, etc etc. Has told his therapist and many friends that his dad died.
He didn't know that I had a mutual friend who was friends with his dad (hell, i didn't either). The friend showed me photos that his father had taken in the past week. "Having a great time blah blah blah".
He had also told me over the years that his father had molested him. Now I don't believe that either. He used all these as excuses to continue being an alcoholic wreck..."I am in grief here!"- musta heard that one a million times. "I can't quit right now! My dad."
I am just absolutely reeling. I don't know that I have ever been so shocked at a revelation. If I have its been buried in my memory.
I cannot believe that someone would like about this. He had lied about other things, and I found them out. But this just shows me the depths of his depravity, frankly, and I feel sick at my stomach.
I have blocked him on every platform, including my phone, but he is involved with a number of people in our town and I am wondering if I should let them know so that they know how diabolical he is. Would that be stupid? Should I do anything? Anyone have any experience with lying liars?
I think you are doing the right just disconnecting from him.
I wouldn't proactively warn people off him probably. Maybe if he came up in conversation. But he's digging his own grave here.
He's not only a liar, he won't take responsibility for his own behavior. He needs to sack up and stop with the "my dad!" nonsense. A lot of people have pain in their past. He's nothing special; he's just looking for an excuse to be a loser.
Just this morning I found out that my ex, with whom I had been trying to rebuild something with, lied about his father dying.
Now, this isn't some "I had a bad childhood so I pretend my parents are dead" scenario. He told me he died last month, tried to borrow my car to go to the funeral, etc etc. Has told his therapist and many friends that his dad died.
He didn't know that I had a mutual friend who was friends with his dad (hell, i didn't either). The friend showed me photos that his father had taken in the past week. "Having a great time blah blah blah".
He had also told me over the years that his father had molested him. Now I don't believe that either. He used all these as excuses to continue being an alcoholic wreck..."I am in grief here!"- musta heard that one a million times. "I can't quit right now! My dad."
I am just absolutely reeling. I don't know that I have ever been so shocked at a revelation. If I have its been buried in my memory.
I cannot believe that someone would like about this. He had lied about other things, and I found them out. But this just shows me the depths of his depravity, frankly, and I feel sick at my stomach.
I have blocked him on every platform, including my phone, but he is involved with a number of people in our town and I am wondering if I should let them know so that they know how diabolical he is. Would that be stupid? Should I do anything? Anyone have any experience with lying liars?
Well yes you've gone about things in the right manner in blocking him completely out of your life my love as lying about something like that shows his true character and lack of values
As for your telling your friends I personally wouldn't because if he's a compulsive liar he would be rather good at it and he may turn your good natured " heads up " to your friends into malicious gossip and create a problem or two for yourself when there's probably no need to as he'll get found out anyway I'm sure
Just this morning I found out that my ex, with whom I had been trying to rebuild something with, lied about his father dying.
.... I have blocked him on every platform, including my phone, but he is involved with a number of people in our town and I am wondering if I should let them know so that they know how diabolical he is. Would that be stupid? Should I do anything? Anyone have any experience with lying liars?
Walk away, don't look back.
Be honest, if anyone asks tell them.
Do not go out of your way to inform anyone.
Not your circus, not your monkeys.
Anything you might otherwise do, is just drawing yourself back into his circle of influence.
That must have been awkward when you sent a sympathy card and the "dead" guy checked the mail!
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