Girlfriend acts like my mom (surprise, shopping, best, perspective)

[Flacko]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

Have you talked to her about it?

she constantly says she pushes it " for me". She works too btw, waitresses

[ClaraC]

Originally Posted by Flacko

It's something she won't stop doing, used to be funny, isn't anymore

Don't do it, Flacko. Don't eat food you don't want to eat. And tell her, I'm not eating food anymore that I don't want to eat.

Different people have different metabolisms. Some people crave red meat, some crave cantaloupe.

It's ridiculous for her to tell you what to eat.

[homina12]

Originally Posted by fleetiebelle

Sure, but at the same time you don't get to opt out of doing any chores at all just because you don't feel like it. Nobody really feels like cleaning the toilet or doing the laundry or washing the dishes, but it needs to get done. Somehow, by someone, at some time. And if the OP is not working and waiting for his internship to start, and his GF is working and also has to do all of the housework, that ain't cool. GF might be overreacting, but it sounds like to the OP any request to do anything is overreacting.

I agree on everything you've said. However, regarding how well something is done, in an argument with my current partner several years ago she suggested that we agree that either of us could either be free of doing the task or do quality control, but not both. Now in our case neither of us was doing anything objectively poorly, just not as the other wanted it done, and we each got picky about the other's way of doing some chores. So there was balance. In any case, this has worked out well.

The other thing is that the OP appears to be spoiled and unaware, but the thing that jumps out at me the most of all the odd behavior described is one person turning off the electronic device another is using. That's real controlling. Lazy is lazy, and the concern is that the person never stops being lazy. Controlling is a different beast altogether. Most controlling people do not become abusive, but a huge % of abusive people started out as controlling.

[ClaraC]

And my guess is, when she has a child that kid won't be able to make any choices for him/herself either.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Flacko

she constantly says she pushes it " for me"

hmm.... So she's a "my way, or the highway" kind of person, disguising it as concern for you.

And she hates your dog.

What do you mean, she gets mad when you vacuum, or scrub the bathroom? Because you're sloppy about it, or is she kind of OCD about it?

[Flacko]

OCD about it. Don't understand her issue w/ the dog, he just likes being around her

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Flacko

OCD about it

On the one hand, the picture is not adding up to long-term compatibility. OTOH, I can't quite get my mind around a guy who seems to do pretty much nothing all day, having these conflicts over housecleaning with his working-girl SO. I mean, how mad could she get, if she came home and the bathroom gleamed, and the breakfast dishes were done, the kitchen counter clean?

Also, I don't understand the part about her turning off his games or internet, or whatever. In theory, that wouldn't even have to come up, since he has all day, every day to spend on that. He could quit when she comes home, so they can spend quality time together.

[Flacko]

she'd do her best to find the tiny tiny spots of dirt I'd missed

[HappyFarm34]

Originally Posted by ClaraC

Don't do it, Flacko. Don't eat food you don't want to eat. And tell her, I'm not eating food anymore that I don't want to eat.

Different people have different metabolisms. Some people crave red meat, some crave cantaloupe.

It's ridiculous for her to tell you what to eat.

My mom tells my dad what to eat all the time LOL. It's neverending LOL

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

I keep wondering about their parents' reaction when they decided they would move in together.

I am wondering how they can afford an apartment on a single waitress income.