Girlfriend acts like my mom (dating, wife, marriage, women)

[Flacko]

I have contemplated that, and realized that yes, I have room for improvement, but, the way she goes about it is just off

[Mikala43]

My husband said I could quote him:

Most men don't care about what's good for them, they are inclined towards instant gratification.

This is from a guy pretty health oriented.

[Flacko]

exactly

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by Flacko

I have contemplated that, and realized that yes, I have room for improvement, but, the way she goes about it is just off

Then tell her what works for you.

[Flacko]

I have told her, she just throws it out the window & does it how she wants

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by Flacko

ok, so, I eat poorly and I don't jump for joy at the thought of housework, not seeing how this justifies her actions

Most everybody does that. I haven't seen anyone justifying her actions.

Have you noticed the advice that some of us have offered?

[Flacko]

instead of long lectures about, " you have 0 idea how much I do around here..." just tell me to vacuum

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by Flacko

instead of long lectures about, " you have 0 idea how much I do around here..." just tell me to vacuum

... or you could just vacuum without being told.

Take the initiative.

[Flacko]

when I do it she just points out that I did it wrong and to redo it

[Flacko]

it's just easier for everyone if she does it right the first time, the whole, " if you want it done right, do it yourself" deal