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I've heard from people I know, that they had to get rid of a pet because of a significant other moving in.
I just shake my head, bc that would never happen in a million years.
Let's see.... the guy I am now serious about, we've agreed that we won't move in together until we've been together a year.
Let's say he's at my place at least twice a week on average. That's 100+ exposures to my pets.
That's 100+ times I get to observe his interactions with my pets.
No... he knows the score. He knows the dogs are here to stay, and if that's a problem, he has between now and whenever to back out of the relationship.
So far, so good. I definitely think taking time before moving in together is key.
My dog can decline to bond with either of our children all he likes. The moment he shows a hint of aggression toward either, that's the end.
I have had to pop my pit bull on the nose (softly) with a newspaper when she showed aggression towards my sister who will be two years old next Saturday. I have trained my dog to be a good dog and no aggression towards children is something I taught it. No exceptions.
I have owned precious pets in the past, but after each of them have passed on, I didn't think I'd ever want to go through that again.
Well, I have decided that after I break up with my STBX and move into my own place, I'm going to get another cat (a kitten) and he or she will be a part of my life and they will become a member of my family and will be as important to me as any other new person that enters my life.
Then, I thought about if any guy that I dated in the future would balk at the idea of me having a cat as my pet OR if he would eventually come to my place, meet my cat and decide (or realize) that he did NOT like my pet. IF that happened, I would most likely dump him.
If my cat (who is my pet, and a member of my family and who I love with ALL my heart) was NOT liked by some unimportant stranger that I just met, I certainly wouldn't dump my precious cat at the Humane Society (or a shelter) just to appease some guy!
So...if you had met, dated and begun to fall for a guy (or a woman) that rung all your bells and whistles, and you either mentioned that you had a pet dog or cat (or whatever) OR they actually went to your house and had MET your pet and you could tell by their mannerisms, body language or the things they said that they did NOT like your pet...what would you do?
If they were someone that you REALLY thought could be "the one" or at the very least could be someone you would want to continue dating and see where it would lead - but they absolutely did NOT like your pet and did NOT want to be around them - would you give them a chance to see if your pet would "grow on them", or would you just say 'sayonara' to them and date someone that you KNEW would accept your pet as part of the package of being with you?
This makes me lol. A guy I was QUITE infatuated with screamed when he saw my cat. He had only picked me up before, never come in and waited for me to get ready. He's sitting on the couch unaware of impending danger and a CAT comes out and jumps up to be petted. He was like you have a cat? I'm allergic! I said no worries, she doesn't have that dander or whatever. Doesn't bother my Mom who is highly allergic.
He also flat didn't LIKE cats. I think it was more a situation for him. Will I continue on with this girl with a cat?
There was never a question of would I give up my cat, so again, his issue to decide, not mine. It was never discussed. He liked me more than he hated cats. And mine was SO funny, she won him over a little. I swear she FLIRTED with men! But he was going to put up with her regardless.
I cannot answer your question because it's impossible that 'the one' for me would be a person who would hate my pet. It just couldn't happen. The qualities I seek in people it just couldn't coincide.
I have had to pop my pit bull on the nose (softly) with a newspaper when she showed aggression towards my sister who will be two years old next Saturday. I have trained my dog to be a good dog and no aggression towards children is something I taught it. No exceptions.
Exactly. My chocolate lab was trained to not even take food or treats from kids. When they offer him something, he will look to me to get permission and he gently takes the item if I say he can.
Exactly. My chocolate lab was trained to not even take food or treats from kids. When they offer him something, he will look to me to get permission and he gently takes the item if I say he can.
Because they live to please. I would probably not struggle with relationships if I could find a man equivalent to my dog.
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