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im nineteen i just got out of a very serious relationship...that was actually my first real relationship...my bf was six years oldr than me had a child and was more mature than me (as can be expected). I loved him very much...even tho he treated me very badly...i was pretty much his personal assistant...i watched his son (constantly), did his laundry, cooked, i did everything for him. It actually got to the point that if he needed a beer (or drink) he would not have to ask i just got up and got it for him.(just one example) I think my behavior stems from always being a people pleasor...to the point that i am always used...by everyone! Well About two months ago...we were having problems..and i decided that i needed to grow a back bone, grow up and take care of myself before anyone else. Well now that we are completley over...im worried that i jumped the gun! if u cant tell by what i wrote above i am a very emotional person...and i dont know if i can handle military life....i want to be my own person. Be responsible. Not so codependent. But im worried i hurried into somethin that i should have thought more about...When i think about what i want to do with my life..i just want to go! Leave this town and get away from all the people that use me...im a strong person i know this...no one could put up with the things that i put up with(just because i love them) so knowing when i set my mind to something or someone and i can completly withstand anything...im worried that i can not do it for myself...So my question is should i think more about my navy life...or should i finally believe in myself? and do something just for me?
im nineteen i just got out of a very serious relationship...that was actually my first real relationship...my bf was six years oldr than me had a child and was more mature than me (as can be expected). I loved him very much...even tho he treated me very badly...i was pretty much his personal assistant...i watched his son (constantly), did his laundry, cooked, i did everything for him. It actually got to the point that if he needed a beer (or drink) he would not have to ask i just got up and got it for him.(just one example) I think my behavior stems from always being a people pleasor...to the point that i am always used...by everyone! Well About two months ago...we were having problems..and i decided that i needed to grow a back bone, grow up and take care of myself before anyone else. Well now that we are completley over...im worried that i jumped the gun! if u cant tell by what i wrote above i am a very emotional person...and i dont know if i can handle military life....i want to be my own person. Be responsible. Not so codependent. But im worried i hurried into somethin that i should have thought more about...When i think about what i want to do with my life..i just want to go! Leave this town and get away from all the people that use me...im a strong person i know this...no one could put up with the things that i put up with(just because i love them) so knowing when i set my mind to something or someone and i can completly withstand anything...im worried that i can not do it for myself...So my question is should i think more about my navy life...or should i finally believe in myself? and do something just for me?
This belongs on another forum unless there is something specific to Colorado Springs.
I think you have a lot of soul searching to do and that is best done alone.
Best of luck to you.
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