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I think it's safe to say we all judge other people, whether we admit it to ourselves or not. Which makes me wonder why some people strictly mention in their profiles that either they're not judgmental, or they're looking for someone who isn't. It makes it a lot more amusing when they proceed to completely ignore you just like everyone else.
I recently came across one of those rare profiles where I really sat up and took notice. Her self-description was a short novel and I could relate to almost every sentence. (This happens very infrequently.) Somewhere in there were allusions to her strong dislike of judgmental people and her hope that her match would not be one. I felt I had to talk to her.
All the men reading this know what's coming...
No response to my message. And yes, I did get a notification that she read it.
So, whatever. I'll get over it. But it does make you wonder. I read it as, "I don't like judgmental people and don't want to be with one, but I judged you immediately without even talking to you. Have a nice life!"
There were literally 100's of other messages from guys who "could relate to almost every sentence". Your message probably just fell through the cracks. If it is OLD, they only want the top tier males and will hold out and wait forever for them to magically appear.
She just wasn't into you, for whatever reason. People aren't required to give EVERYONE a chance.
Clearly she wasn't. And 98% of the time, it doesn't bother me when that happens. But when you see someone talking about how she doesn't like being judged for various personality quirks, and you have most of the same quirks, you get a little more hopeful than usual.
Clearly she wasn't. And 98% of the time, it doesn't bother me when that happens. But when you see someone talking about how she doesn't like being judged for various personality quirks, and you have most of the same quirks, you get a little more hopeful than usual.
Moving on now...
She didn't want to date you. That is not being judgmental.
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OP, you do realize, don't you, that the exact same thing happens to women on OLD? They see a profile that really resonates with them, they note many elements they feel they have in common, and feel like they could have some great conversations with the guy, so they send a message, but get crickets. This isn't something women "do to" men. It's just life.
And yes, from a certain perspective, it's too bad, but I chalk that kind of thing up to "everyone's looking for a 'type' ". They may in some ways be wrong about what "type" is right for them, they may be missing out, but then, OTOH, readers of profiles don't really know anything about the posters' personality and temperament, either. Maybe the person you feel would be a good match for you would be a nightmare, or a dud. It's a crap shoot, even if you do find a profile that resonates with you. They're only showing you a very small part of themselves, bear in mind. It can be a bit like trying to size up someone at your front door, by looking through the peephole.
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