Have you cheated? (boyfriend, woman, cheat, attracted)
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Yes, first bf, felt terrible about it, still do. Wasn't happy in the relationship, couldn't get out when I really wanted to. Broke up with him the next day and told him about it. Would never do it again. Rather be single than unhappy being with someone.
The worst thing I did was 9th grade where I made out with my ex-BF while he was dating my friends sister.
Since then, nothing.
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Yes and I won't ever do it again. I wasn't happy in the relationship but the anguish it brought into my relationship taught me a very valuable lesson. There really is no worse feeling than betraying someones trust and the high regard in which they once held you. It really hurts to go from being the most amazing person in their eyes to someone they only now associate with hurt and pain.
It really is hard to stay committed when you have a lot of options but it never ends up being worth it in the end. Ironically my favorite movie is Unfaithful because it really does depict the devastating actions and repercussions cheating will have within a relationship.
When I was younger I cheated at the end of a relationship. Looking back I clearly did it to cement in my mind that I was done, that there was no going back.
Are you a male or female? How come you cheated? How did you feel? How long were you into your relationship?
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Originally Posted by JPrzybylski07
Really, I didn't know that thanks for enlightening me... What I also didn't know and wanted to know was how come they cheated? How did they feel about it. Was their guilt or was it a rush, etc, those kinds of things!
What constitutes "cheating"? Everyone has a different definition.
For some it's unfaithful to masturbate to porn.. I wonder how many with that definition are truly faithful in our day and age.. Probably very few.
True, yes everyone draws the line at different areas, cheating can be so much more then just a physical act. There are even more extreme points of views that there is no such thing as cheating at all since no one owns our bodies and minds.
Open relationships are also more pervasive in today's day of age. So hard to get all your needs met from one partner, emotional and physical. So that's why it's interesting to hear people's answers to the question have you cheated? Because from their answers you can tell where that line is drawn.
To some people cheating is very black and white in that it comes down to was there physical contact or not, while other people are more open minded and can't just say yes or no. We already know the people who say no they haven't cheated still eye f*** the opposite sex (or same sex) and partake in some sort of porno/masturbation form behind their partners backs. In their minds they haven't crossed that line. It's really their right as a being to draw the line where they feel comfortable. Some people might extend that line out more and say kissing isn't really cheating, and on and on...
What's the most we can get away with without feeling any guilt is the question from here on out I guess? The majority of people clearly don't think eye f****** the opposite sex is reason to feel guilty, "it's the natural thing to do right" but then that line kicks in and makes the actual act apparently unnatural.
Follow up question after that, why do we feel guilt when we cross the line of ours? It is from our instilled monogamous social norms and deviating from it makes most people feel uncomfortable perhaps?
Being unfaithful is perhaps the unltimate act of disrespect.
My moral code does not allow me to hurt a person so deeply.
My respect for someone I have loved, and my self respect, make it necessary to break off a relationship rather than cheat.
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