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Maybe it was because she gave you a chance despite her reservations until you did something that convinced her to end it with you? That's not leading you on, that's getting to know you. Things don't always work out; in fact, they rarely do. Relationships are hard work and to have a special connection with someone requires a lot of things 'lining up', if you will. Better luck with your next prospect.
This is how dating works. I'd also like to know how she led you on. She dated you a few times and then stopped? Would you rather she continued when she wasn't feeling it? That's not a rhetorical question. How could she have let you down more gently?
In what way did she "lead" you? Was she dishonest, or was it more a case of not specifically stating that she was not interested?
reminds me of the old thread about a cashier making small talk with people in line, and someone thought they were flirting with him and got upset when she turned him down
I dated a girl I later figured out was a serial "eight month, and you're gone" with regards to relationships. I also later found out she was a Lesbian, and I guess was either bisexual, or just wanted the appearance of being hetero for her family, or work, or whatever. She also used me for money, so watch out if they ask for "loans", or to pay for stuff for their kids, etc. She was just a jerk, but I was devastated at being dumped, but looking back I am very grateful I'm no longer with her.
So I actually never made a move on her, I was considering it. I just got more details from a mutual friend whose known her for many years and they warned me that although she's awesome to hang with, she makes guy bend over backwards trying to win over her but she still will give them hope when in reality she will eventually get them to give up. This friend of mine told me to just to be cautious and do not think too much into it.
I crushed on someone recently who has a long history of doing this. Seemed like a really sweet girl who I thought had potential as someone I can see myself with. It caught me by surprise but eventually, I connected the dots and confirmed with someone who knew her better than I did.
I just don't get the psyche behind it. Why do girls do this?
That's the problem. She has a long history of doing this and you're her latest victim. Just walk away with your head held high. BTW, she sounds like a little girl than a woman.
I dated a girl I later figured out was a serial "eight month, and you're gone" with regards to relationships. I also later found out she was a Lesbian, and I guess was either bisexual, or just wanted the appearance of being hetero for her family, or work, or whatever. She also used me for money, so watch out if they ask for "loans", or to pay for stuff for their kids, etc. She was just a jerk, but I was devastated at being dumped, but looking back I am very grateful I'm no longer with her.
Yikes, my dude. She was a trainwreck. Went from straight to lesbian to bisexual. We live and we learn.
Maybe it was because she gave you a chance despite her reservations until you did something that convinced her to end it with you? That's not leading you on, that's getting to know you. Things don't always work out; in fact, they rarely do. Relationships are hard work and to have a special connection with someone requires a lot of things 'lining up', if you will. Better luck with your next prospect.
Yes, many things have to "line up" for things to work. We are complex human beings.
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