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I'm a man who have been in quite a few relationships; but i always fail keeping it up when it comes to longer times like multiple months.
When I'm in relationship i often end up caring too much, because i'm falling in love with the person. I often focus more on their stuff than mine. This is quite funny, because when I'm single i don't need anybody to have fun - i can literally spend hours on my own, i don't need company. I often travelled to different countries on my own as well without missing anybody; I can always find a way to spend my time.
How can i fix this, and being myself - the goal oriented, focused man when i have somebody?
What is the man's role in a relationship?
How can i keep that personality of mine in a relationship what my partner has fallen into?
These are my questions. Any small help is appreciated
Have a nice day!
You sound like someone who gives a lot which means you will only be happy with someone who gives a lot too. So often what we are giving (affection, attention, etc) is what we ourselves need.
My advice is to be yourself and find someone who is a lot like you; giving, caring, affectionate, and with the same values you have.
Forget that crap about opposites attracting - the fine print on that one is that they only attract for a short while.
So be yourself and when you find the lady that wants you turned up to 11, who makes you a better man...who makes you want to be your best self - you know you've found the right one.
And if anyone tells you you're "too much" or to turn down the volume on being you - walk away.
There is someone for everyone and you can only find each other in this world when you are being yourself and not adjusting yourself to be who someone else wants you to be!
Seems like you get lost during the infatuation phase. Believe it or not, this will gradually wear off and you’ll eventually get back to normal.
Try to avoid women who are too needy. You should look for someone with a similar drive as yourself ( in more ways than one, haha). Maintain healthy boundaries, and make yourself stay focused on what you need to accomplish.
It’s natural to want to shower affection on a new partner. Show some restraint, but don’t withhold too much. It takes awhile to find equilibrium, so take it slow and be patient with yourself.
Unlike you, the OP does not appear to be focused on sex.
He's asking about maintaining a relationship.
To be fair to CharlesX11, the OP worded the thread title in an ambiguous way.
I initially thought, “as a man?”, is this from a woman who has transgendered?
Putting “keeping it up” would lead most people think it was erectile dysfunction that was meant.
As I read, and re-read the OP, it became clearer that the question was, “how do I maintain the relationship”, but I don't blame Charles for misinterpreting it.
To be fair to CharlesX11, the OP worded the thread title in an ambiguous way.
I initially thought, “as a man?”, is this from a woman who has transgendered?
Putting “keeping it up” would lead most people think it was erectile dysfunction that was meant.
As I read, and re-read the OP, it became clearer that the question was, “how do I maintain the relationship”, but I don't blame Charles for misinterpreting it.
Not true, I read the title and post and figured out immediately it was sexual dysfunction oriented.
OP, it appears you care much more in the beginning of a relationship but the attraction fizzles soon after you really start to get to know someone. Perhaps take more time to know someone before jumping into an actual relationship. Take your time, explore, have adventures, stay casual for a longer period of time, it may help you become more aware of those things that are not attractive to you that you ignore in the first few weeks/months.
Good luck.
Yeah silly way of putting the question op when it's not even about sexual stuff.
sounds like you just haven't met the right person though to me, your starting up relationships with just anyone'
when you really love someone your just into them , there's no problem with interest and stuff , well not for 15 or 20yrs anyway, same goes for them.
Unless either starts turning the other off and falls out of love l guess then down the toilet it goes anyway l guess.
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