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Nope, we sometimes both put in our cards and split, but separate checks really isn't a thing anymore. I can't recall it ever being a thing, actually.
Fair enough though, I found out one of the women I was out with Saturday has a husband, only met her twice before, and I didn't know. Glad I found out though, she's cool, and cute. One was trying to get with this other guy, clearly. The one that keeps trying to get me to come over I think is awesome, but have no desire to sleep with. The fourth I just met, she's smoking. I hope to run into her again. Fun night in Providence, glad I left before it got too out of control, however. I never think to ask if they have a S/O, if they announce it, I take it as a sign they aren't interested, but I don't find it that common for people to announce... adults aren't dropping "my boyfriend and I..." to every person they meet. I'm not going to chicken block myself though, so even if they have a S/O I can ask them out, if they decline, they decline, if they don't, they don't.
Waitresses still ask if "it's all on one" (check) in my world.
I don't go out alone with married men, I'd never go have drinks and dinner with a guy right now who isn't my s/o, or if I was "looking" I'd know if they were attached. I just don't like to take the chance on anyone thinking I have ideas about "their man" not necessary for me and I'm not interested in getting into anything with someone who's taken, equally I don't give the wrong impression that I'm not. And still have an enjoyable social life.
I think she should have let you know she had a boyfriend, OP. Do you want your girlfriend to go out on daytime dates and out to dinner and drinks with other men?
Yeah, i guess he could've asked, but most women I have personally talked to have eventually mentioned their SO at some point. They did not purposely hide it from me, so I do think it is kinda unusual for them to spend this much time together and yet she would be so careful not to mention a bf.
i get it, if a woman is interested in you, she won't mention a bf even if she has one. My stance is, if a woman has a boyfriend, then I don't want her to be interested in me and surely do not want to be the reason they break up. My lady, Karma won't take too kindly to that.
No? Unless they buy a round, then I buy around, that kind of thing. I don't go out to dinner and drinking with men friends and not know if they have a girlfriend, either, or I probably wouldn't feel comfortable going.
We ask for separate checks, and yeah- I already know, that's something you say has never happened when you were out.
This, and if I'm going to start hanging with a guy as a friend, I am putting it out there that I have a BF, so he doesn't get the wrong idea.
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This, and if I'm going to start hanging with a guy as a friend, I am putting it out there that I have a BF, so he doesn't get the wrong idea.
Maybe she wants to leave her existing BF, and is sizing the OP up for her next catch? A lot of women, and some men won't leave a relationship unless they have the next guy/gal.
Maybe she wants to leave her existing BF, and is sizing the OP up for her next catch? A lot of women, and some men won't leave a relationship unless they have the next guy/gal.
True, personally, I don't find that healthy behavior.
And that doesn't excuse dishonesty (by omission).
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Let's cut to the chase...why didn't you ask her out right away? Why didn't you make a joke about her having a BF (or not) right away, somehow working it into the conversation? Etc., etc. You wimped out and put all the "blame" on her to tell you her status.
If you were really interested you'd have taken a definitive step but you did not. You must have been so weak (in your intentions) that she never even thought of you as the dating type or she'd have made it clear. You were clearly acting like a friend. You act like she deceived you...but she wasn't using you - she didn't try to jump YOU and then you found out she was attached. You're just upset because you lost a lot of time due to your own timidity. Next time be a LOT more assertive.
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