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I've never known anyone who's told me that they were asexual and I don't feel like the term accurately describes me even though I don't feel a need for sexual contact with another person. I still experience attraction to people, respond to sexual stimuli, and I like having orgasms (by myself).
Really? Women have been faking it and going through the motions and having headaches for millennia. And there are some guys who are similar - they just never initiate.
Why be in a romantic intimate relatioship if you're not into any type of sexual act (kissing, foreplay, etc) ??
So, women that been "faking it" for millennia are doing it for what purpose? boredom? sht&giggles? financial gain?
Marilyn Monroe had gynecological problems that made it painful for her to have sex. I could imagine if I were a female and have this that it could be confusing between being asexual and just not enjoying sex.
Why be in a romantic intimate relatioship if you're not into any type of sexual act (kissing, foreplay, etc) ??
They probably get all the intimacy they need from companionship and non-sexual affection. Sex is a non-entity to them, so your question is like asking, "how can you enjoy your vacation if you don't go hang gliding?" You're a highly sexual person, HC, so this is probably difficult for you to understand.
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So, women that been "faking it" for millennia are doing it for what purpose? boredom? sht&giggles? financial gain?
Why be in a romantic intimate relatioship if you're not into any type of sexual act (kissing, foreplay, etc) ??
So, women that been "faking it" for millennia are doing it for what purpose? boredom? sht&giggles? financial gain?
Because they're expected to, because that's what people are supposed to do in relationships, because they wanted or were expected to have biological children.
It's not that uncommon. It can take many asexuals time to realize or come to terms with their asexuality due to feeling abnormal or different from their peers or others. Just like I've known gay and lesbian people who were in hetero relationships and marriages and even had kids. Many had a feeling they were gay, but ignored or suppressed it for a multitude of reasons, one of them being religious upbringing. So, they fake it, go through the motions, etc.
They probably get all the intimacy they need from companionship and non-sexual affection. Sex is a non-entity to them, like asking, "how can you enjoy your vacation if you don't go hang gliding?" You're a highly sexual person, HC, so this is probably difficult for you to understand.
Because they're expected to.
Right. Hang gliding likely wouldn't be on my radar of things to do on vacation, if it were even an option. But I can do enjoy the vacation.
They probably get all the intimacy they need from companionship and non-sexual affection. Sex is a non-entity to them, like asking, "how can you enjoy your vacation if you don't go hang gliding?" You're a highly sexual person, HC, so this is probably difficult for you to understand.
Because they're expected to.
I am highly sexual (I took that under consideration) and trying to use common sense when making my comment.
I still dont fully understand why get romantically involved with someone who isn't asuxual, when you can just have platonic/same gender friends (or a pet) to have companionship with?
I guess, the point I'm trying to make is that someone who claims to be asuxual then gets into a romantic relationship with someone (like me) isn't 100% asexual.
I am highly sexual (I took that under consideration) and trying to use common sense when making my comment.
I still dont fully understand why get romantically involved with someone who isn't asuxual, when you can just have platonic/same gender friends (or a pet) to have companionship with?
I guess, the point I'm trying to make is that someone who claims to be asuxual then gets into a romantic relationship with someone (like me) isn't 100% asexual.
Oftentimes they don't know they're asexual until after they've in conventional relationships. They may assume they have a low sex drive, have hormonal issues, are stressed out, dealing with depression, etc. So it's not like asexuals knowingly seek out relationships with non-asexuals when more times than not they don't realize they're asexual (vs. the other reasons) until later in life, often after going through therapy/counseling and introspection/soul-searching sparked by relationship challenges (sexless or infrequent sex during a LTR or marriage or physical intimacy issues).
I do have a friend that was married for a number of years and currently enjoys a companionship/relationship with someone who is also asexual.
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