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I don't recall any posts about financial security. I recall a lot of posts saying, if you don't want to get married, don't. And posts saying that for some men, there's good reason. Men have their reasons, obviously, because they're still getting married, The Sunday papers are still full of wedding announcements on the society pages.
You still haven't told us what your friends' concept of "engaged" is, though. "Engaged" is by definition, a status limited in time. Your friends don't sound too bright, OP. In order to get engaged, you have to propose marriage, first, lol.
You can be engaged for years if she doesn't want to keep waiting she can give back the ring.
You can be engaged for years if she doesn't want to keep waiting she can give back the ring.
Dude, if you don't want to get married, don't get married. Why even start a thread?
I'm pretty sure there was no answer to your question that would make you change your mind.
What's your point?
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You can be engaged for years if she doesn't want to keep waiting she can give back the ring.
So, your friends' concept is open-ended engagement for life, as one option? Yeah, you're right; she can give back the ring if she gets tired of waiting, and the guy can recycle it to the next sucker. I guess it doesn't matter to him, right? Sounds like your friends never outgrew their kindergarten game of musical chairs. But hey, whatever. With luck, these guys may find women who aren't into marriage, either.
Financial security seems like a heavy price to pay for a potential lifetime of broken backed compromise, barely concealed resentment, unfulfilled goals and repressed misery, but whatever floats your boat.
Financial security seems like a heavy price to pay for a potential lifetime of broken backed compromise, barely concealed resentment, unfulfilled goals and repressed misery, but whatever floats your boat.
But financial security is a great bonus to having someone to split all chores, regular sex, someone always having your back, and living with your best friend and someone who can always make you laugh.
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Financial security seems like a heavy price to pay for a potential lifetime of broken backed compromise, barely concealed resentment, unfulfilled goals and repressed misery, but whatever floats your boat.
Unless you have/want kids or over 50, marriage is unnecessary.
It might be necessary for plenty of people, even if they don't want kids or are over 50. Lots of people don't want to stay in long term relationship if it does not lead to commitment. Anyway, not sure why 50 is somehow the magic number.
It's worked for my husband. Lower taxes, regular physical contact without the fear of STDs, children, someone to cook/clean/laundry/bake/pet care/ budget/schedule/etc., childcare for the children, financial security in his older age and someone to physically look after him.
We also enjoy sharing our interests and company. Having the same last name and a family makes us feel unified and happy.
He just has to go to work. That's it. No rushing home to take the dog out, no worries about the kids, no cooking, no cleaning (unless I'm sick) and that allows him to do his best at work and in his career. I even schedule his doctor and dentist appointments...not that he couldn't do that, but it takes that burden off of him. I also buy all the holiday presents for his family, call on home maintenance, etc.
So sad that so many are soured.
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if she doesn't want to keep waiting she can give back the ring.
