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I met this lovely lady on a dating application this past weekend and I showed her my city for 3 days in a row.
We held hands, kissed on the lips and I felt like we were a couple the entire weekend.
She is 49 and I am 51.
She wasn't looking for a hook up, but I made romantic moves based on us being intimate during the weekend.
Holding hands to me was better than sex.
Anyway I pushed the romantic stuff a little bit more than I should have and she told me she doesn't want to get into to anything heavy, because she lives on the west coast and I live in the midwest.
The thing is she is awesome, she is not a gold digger has her own money and is a giving person.
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I never met anyone like this in my life. I am the one usually doing the giving.
Anyway I am going out her way for work in December and we planned on her showing me her city and I talked about us taking a trip together someone in the future abroad.
She is the type that likes to have a friend before a lover.
How do I redeem myself and turn this around? I have strong feelings for her.
How do I be a friend to her and not make her feel pressured into anything?
Sorry I have to ask, its terrible that i don't know how to be a friend at this age.
She leaves today and I will not see her until December the 1st.
I also need advice on what I can do to stay on her mind until then without being an annoyance to her.
I'm not sure what exactly you messed up, OP. You made a move, she told you her reasons why she's not into it right now, and you respected her wishes, right? If she's still speaking to you and you're still planning on visiting her in a few weeks, just be cool.
I met this lovely lady on a dating application this past weekend and I showed her my city for 3 days in a row.
We held hands, kissed on the lips and I felt like we were a couple the entire weekend.
She is 49 and I am 51.
She wasn't looking for a hook up, but I made romantic moves based on us being intimate during the weekend.
Holding hands to me was better than sex.
Anyway I pushed the romantic stuff a little bit more than I should have and she told me she doesn't want to get into to anything heavy, because she lives on the west coast and I live in the midwest.
The thing is she is awesome, she is not a gold digger has her own money and is a giving person.
--
I never met anyone like this in my life. I am the one usually doing the giving.
Anyway I am going out her way for work in December and we planned on her showing me her city and I talked about us taking a trip together someone in the future abroad.
She is the type that likes to have a friend before a lover.
How do I redeem myself and turn this around? I have strong feelings for her.
How do I be a friend to her and not make her feel pressured into anything?
Sorry I have to ask, its terrible that i don't know how to be a friend at this age.
She leaves today and I will not see her until December the 1st.
I also need advice on what I can do to stay on her mind until then without being an annoyance to her.
Thanks ladies...
Dude, slow the heck down. I mean really SLOW DOWN.
You just met over this past weekend and spent 3 days together? I'm not understanding the logistics, as you mention that she lives on the west coast.
At 51 you don't know how to be a friend? You don't know how to not be horny and not make romantic moves? What is your experience with dating?
I'm not sure what exactly you messed up, OP. You made a move, she told you her reasons why she's not into it right now, and you respected her wishes, right? If she's still speaking to you and you're still planning on visiting her in a few weeks, just be cool.
very true she is still speaking.
I just need to transition into a friendship now, but its hard when you have feelings.
She told me she likes the person she dates to be close by and that it would be very hard to date long distance.
But I am the type of guy that will overcome obstacles and travel for love.
but she was right it would be too stressful.
now I am just trying to let it sink in and prepare myself for seeing her in a month.
How do you now have feeling for someone and not think about them in that way once its begun?
I'm not sure what exactly you messed up, OP. You made a move, she told you her reasons why she's not into it right now, and you respected her wishes, right? If she's still speaking to you and you're still planning on visiting her in a few weeks, just be cool.
Yes i am respecting them but after making her feel a bit pressured last night.
I will take your advice and be very cool from now on.
Honestly, you hardly know this woman, though it is possible that you're having a middle-aged Before Sunrise moment. If you don't think you can detach and just be friends with her without hoping (and pushing) for something more, then it's probably best to back off now before you get even more attached.
You just met her. If I were this woman I would think you are nuts. Especially if you keep talking like this and about having sex. Get a grip. You are old enough to know better.
You just met her. If I were this woman I would think you are nuts. Especially if you keep talking like this and about having sex. Get a grip. You are old enough to know better.
I agree! He is acting more like he is 15 than 51 lol
Who doesn't know how to act around a woman you just met at his age? lol
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