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For the love of Pete from the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, do not - I repeat DO NOT - do anything for her birthday. That is reserved for when you are sitting in the boyfriend chair.
On Wednesday, if you must do something special, do it for yourself. Go out with friends. Buy something for yourself. If nothing else, stay home, watch sports and get drunk. The birthday will come and go. It is just one day.
I think sending a Happy Birthday greeting would probably just cement your status in the friend zone. So sweet of him to text! She'd be more likely to want to pat you on the head than to rip your clothes off.
If you're going to focus your attention on a female, focus it on a woman you're sleeping with or a woman you stand a good chance of sleeping with. I honestly believe, based on what you've shared, that you missed your window of opportunity. Don't beat yourself up about it. That happens sometimes. You need to be proactive to make your own good fortune.
Here's another way this could possibly be looked at: If you spent a few cuddling sessions with her, and didn't feel a strong enough impulse to take it to the next step, maybe you just weren't all that into her. Then, in a sort of wishy-washy way, you try to escalate the relationship, only to be met with "sorry, I'm seeing someone." And, because you always want what you can't have, you're lamenting that she isn't with you, and there's much more of a mystique around her than there needs to be.
Right! The best thing is to cut all ties.
It's clearly driving you nuts if you're pining for Wednesday when you can send her a simple "Happy Birthday" text, to which she might respond with a quick message,which you will over analyze and wait for the next time you are allowed to text her.
Part of the problem is confidence- you have it your head for some reason that you blew the opportunity of a lifetime. Well I can tell you, you probably didn't. She could have made the big move too, and she didn't. I've been with plenty of women cuddling on the couch- and being the gentleman that I am , let them strike first. If they were into me, it happened. IF she was that into you, it would have happened.
Get back out there- after a few weeks, you'll forget about her.
OP, if it's any consolation to you, I lost the most bestest woman out there because I didn't take up on her hints. Thinking back, she was just about rubbing it in my face! She was a really really lovely girl. Beautiful too. I just lacked the confidence at the time. Knowing what I know now, she was mine for the picking. She nearly even jumped into my bed when I was in her parents outhouse on their farm one weekend she invited me to spend the weekend with her. WTF! How many times have I banged my head on a wall for being so damn dumb!
But I moved on and had some fun with quite a few other girls. I seldom think of the one that got away.
OP, if it's any consolation to you, I lost the most bestest woman out there because I didn't take up on her hints. Thinking back, she was just about rubbing it in my face! She was a really really lovely girl. Beautiful too. I just lacked the confidence at the time. Knowing what I know now, she was mine for the picking. She nearly even jumped into my bed when I was in her parents outhouse on their farm one weekend she invited me to spend the weekend with her. WTF! How many times have I banged my head on a wall for being so damn dumb!
But I moved on and had some fun with quite a few other girls. I seldom think of the one that got away.
I'm guessing that a New Zealand "outhouse" is not the same type of structure as an "outhouse" in the States.
ah.. if i had only gotten this girl alone in an outhouse!!
here we are, birthday day.. haven't said anything yet. i'm sure i will.. i've just had other things on my mind. which is probably a good thing in some sense
ah.. if i had only gotten this girl alone in an outhouse!!
here we are, birthday day.. haven't said anything yet. i'm sure i will.. i've just had other things on my mind. which is probably a good thing in some sense
yep. i'll leave the " i love and miss you and i will die without you" part out
I think that is a very wise choice hahahaha!
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, let them strike first. If they were into me, it happened. IF she was that into you, it would have happened.
