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Old 11-03-2017, 02:47 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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When starting to date, is it best to get this topic out in the beginning or just go on with the relationship and then announce "I don't want children"...

This wasn't even a thought in my years of dating and then marriage decades ago. It was a given, marriage, children, etc..

What do you young people out there do today....be upfront right away? Or enjoy the ride as long as it lasts.
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Old 11-03-2017, 03:30 PM
 
Location: Avignon, France
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First thing I discuss with a date is that I am not looking for a b/f much less a husband or children ( at this stage of my life.) I am very upfront about it right from the early stages.
"Enjoying the ride " would be a waste of his time if he was looking for a long term relationship, and wouldn't serve my interests in any way.
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Old 11-03-2017, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Earlier the better.

My husband and I met at an age where there was really no point in exploring even starting on a relationship if we weren't on the same page.
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Old 11-03-2017, 03:37 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Pretty much first date. It usually comes up naturally without having it sound like big issues/screening or possibly-daddy interview.
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Old 11-03-2017, 06:48 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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From the get-go.
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Old 11-03-2017, 06:59 PM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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Pretty much first date. It usually comes up naturally without having it sound like big issues/screening or possibly-daddy interview.
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From the get-go.
Perhaps, but nothing ever is written in stone, and people often change their mind - both ways...
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Old 11-03-2017, 07:09 PM
 
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Get it out sooner. I think we touched on that by our second date.
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Old 11-03-2017, 07:21 PM
 
Location: D.C.
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I always stated very early, definitely no later than date two that I didn't want children. Of course, OLD makes it really easy as you can state it in the profile.
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Old 11-03-2017, 07:26 PM
 
Location: Auckland, New Zealand
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POF and Find Someone have it in their search criteria.
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Old 11-03-2017, 07:29 PM
 
Location: Avignon, France
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Perhaps, but nothing ever is written in stone, and people often change their mind - both ways...
True, but for me me as of the present... it is written in stone. Should I change my mind down the road... that would be another discussion.

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