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Well we’re gonna see each other at class tonight. I’m thinking of telling her what she did that night and asking her “I know you were wasted but honestly, is there any truth about what you said? If so, no hard feelings but if there actually is mutual interest, then I’d love to keep going on dates”
How does that sound?
Getting drunk on a dateisn’t necessarily weird when you’re young or first dating. Alcohol is tricky stuff and you can get drunker than planned, real fast.
You need to pay attention to a person’s habits and trends in behavior. If a person regularly drinks till blacking out or drinks heavily on a regular basis, a problem is emerging. We don’t start life with risky behaviors, we develop them. Women have a lower tolerance for alcohol, even if some claim they can handle it. Biologically it takes a heavy toll.
You might try dating her a few more times to see what’s going on, but I’m not sure I’d waste time on someone who finds me unattractive.
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Originally Posted by CBeisbol
A weird question.
Belief isn't a conscious decision.
You believe her, or you don't.
I guess it should have been “Would it make sense to believe her?”
The date was her idea. She asked me out to a second date because she said we had a great time on the first one. I don’t understand why she’d do that if she’s not interested lol.:
Maybe it wasn't a date, but she needed a drinking buddy, someone who was fun and a good companion. Nothing more.
Somehow it seem so.
I guess it boils down to whether or not alcohol is truth serum. I just feel like what’s the point in claiming that she didn’t mean it and saying she’s still interested if she isn’t . Why not just ghost me ?
Well we’re gonna see each other at class tonight. I’m thinking of telling her what she did that night and asking her “I know you were wasted but honestly, is there any truth about what you said? If so, no hard feelings but if there actually is mutual interest, then I’d love to keep going on dates”
How does that sound?
It makes sense that you WANT to believe her, but the way you're going about this is very unattractive.
Do you have to bring up all your insecurities??? Just ask her out again and see how it goes. Don't lay all your fears on the table.
Take action, and see what action she takes in return.
I kind of see what you mean. I have this strong urge to get immediate answers from her since I’ve already been on dates with her and discussed potentially being a couple. She even mentioned the possibility of having kids with me kind of jokingly( but I figured it showed she was at least considering dating me).
There have been a few threads (plus it's a always been a long standing argument )about whether or not alcohol is a 'truth serum'. Just as many people believe it is as do those who believe you can't trust what a drunk says.
Don't try to figure it out. Just see how things go from now on.
Well we’re gonna see each other at class tonight. I’m thinking of telling her what she did that night and asking her “I know you were wasted but honestly, is there any truth about what you said? If so, no hard feelings but if there actually is mutual interest, then I’d love to keep going on dates”
How does that sound?
Didn't you say the 2 of you already talked about this? Look, either you believe her or you don't, but DON'T rehash it all again, because it will most definitely drive it home to her that you're wondering if she's a liar, and you will be shooting yourself in the foot.
You will be shooting yourself in the foot, because you will be coming off as very insecure and needy, and if she wasn't attracted BEFORE please explain how you think she'll feel about you when you come off as a needy baby that needs constant reassurance? Let. It. Go.
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