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That's good. You're facing the consequences of behaving badly all those years ago.
Stew in those juices for a bit, and if the time ever comes when the two of you are alone for a minute, just quietly say to her, "I just want you to know that I'm not the same person I was then, and I'm sorry I was not very nice to you back in school."
Yes.
That point should be you being adult enough to apologize.
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Originally Posted by MysticalK
I was embarrassed to be honest and still am.
As you should be.
We've all done dumb things as kids. Not to excuse your behavior. But, neither does it mean that you're a terrible person.
Actually, at the table would have been the perfect time to apologize. "You know, we did know each other. Unfortunately, I was kind of a jerk to her. I'm sorry". That would have been a huge thing to do. Then you could have talked about it more in detail and in private later.
That opportunity is gone, but make another opportunity later.
Yes, OP was a bully and yes, her victim can and probably does still feel hurt by it.
What with the wink and the smile it seems like she has gotten over it.
Since the opportunity did pass, it still would not be a bad idea for the op to mention it when the occasion arises and apologize.
I think the best thing is not mention it unless she does. Sounds like you're probably making way way more out of it than she is. Sounds like your brother has found a "turn the other cheek" person. If it comes up, apologize, if not, just be nice and be glad your brother found somebody nice.
A sincere and humble apology is in order. Toss in a lunch on top of it and it will go a long way towards opening new doors for you.
My sister married and is still married to the guy who used to corner me and give me noogies in the hall way at school. I hated the bastard. We solved our issues though and we're great friends to this day now. He knows I can kick his butt all over the place if I wanted too.
Ok, cool, you are a nice person now. Apologize to her when you have the chance.
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