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It's only an affair because we play so much emphasis on marriage and monogamy. If only people started being more candid and honest about their wants and desires maybe we wouldn't have such a high divorce rate as a society to begin with.
No, it has nothing to with what "WE" place emphasis on. It is what the couple promised each other.
If a couple decided to have an open marriage, then fine. When you promise to love and forgo all others, then either your promises mean something or they don't. If you find you no longer want to keep those promises, then you can get divorced. Simple.
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No, it has nothing to with what "WE" place emphasis on. It is what the couple promised each other.
If a couple decided to have an open marriage, then fine. When you promise to love and forgo all others, then either your promises mean something or they don't. If you find you no longer want to keep those promises, then you can get divorced. Simple.
Fair enough, still doesn't change the fact OP should proceed and have some fun. Not his worry or problem at all unless Husband comes after him and tries to kill him. And no that wouldn't be karma, it would be a simple case of cause and effect
Fair enough, still doesn't change the fact OP should proceed and have some fun. Not his worry or problem at all unless Husband comes after him and tries to kill him. And no that wouldn't be karma, it would be a simple case of cause and effect
Yes he should absolutely do this if he wants to be a low life.
I wouldn't date or have a relationship with someone like that.
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Yes he should absolutely do this if he wants to be a low life.
I wouldn't date or have a relationship with someone like that.
Just because OP might not acknowledge or respect the man made constructed notion of marriage doesn't make him a low life. He wasn't the one who made the vows and promises he couldn't keep. That's basically the same thing as saying anyone who doesn't acknowledge or celebrate Christmas is a low life, when if fact many people don't.
Just because OP might not acknowledge or respect the man made constructed notion of marriage doesn't make him a low life.
ROFL so now he's a sovereign citizen? Is that where you're trying to go with this?
You've jumped on this thread and put words in HIS mouth to rationalize YOUR pet point. So much maneuvering in order to justify something that even the OP admits is wrong. He just asked for advice on how not to feel guilty about it.
In the absence of morality, all we're left with is self interest. So. Is it in the OP's best self interest, to have sex with a married woman?
Well, from an instant gratification standpoint it is, especially if sexual opportunities aren't easy for him to come by. But there is a great deal of risk, of very unpleasant outcomes, which in my opinion are not worth it at all. Everything from the husband finding out and doing harm, to her getting all attached and breaking up her marriage and trying to move on claiming the OP, and a hundred shades of drama in between.
But what do I know, I guess...I'm female and sex isn't very difficult for me to get. It is not worth drama to get. Not worth inviting messy people (deceivers, or those with serious life issues like a marriage about to implode) into my life.
The fact that you aren't policing yourself and are of the character type that would even consider such a dastardly deed says a lot about you. Look, take a look at yourself and make a change. You're looking mighty ugly and desperate!
Her husband may not give her what she wants, but he may give you (both) what you dont want if found out. It will rapidly turn into the most stressful situation in your life. She loves her husband, she will never love you the way she loves her husband. You may think now it doesnt matter, but it will eventually, almost guaranteed. You are single, she is the one hiding, so you get sex when she wants it, not when you want it. She will also continue to have sex with her husband. Even if it is from time to time to keep off any suspicion and you eventually "wont like" that. When you are sitting around waiting on her, and she is going out with her husband, you wont like that either. There are a whole bunch of things you will eventually "not like" to say the least. What she is doing, and by your description, I can almost guarantee, whether you believe it or not, you are not her "first time" cheating. She will probably be cheating on you while cheating with you on her husband. You dont matter except for one thing, period. It ain't worth the stress for the one not cheating so the one cheating can get their jollies.
Well that's my guess.
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