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Why? What else are you hoping to hear?? We’ve said everything there is to say — he’s not into her, she’s a drama queen, and you need to butt out.
Just had a message from my friend complaining that her followers are unfollowing her on her twitter account.
I tried to resonate with her that her twitter account consists of her followers aligned to her professional industry and that retweeting all content from her partners account who is in law enforcement will loose her a lot of followers as his tweets will not be relevant to them.
Are there any therapist out there, I am beginning to feel concerned that this man is manipulating and brainwashing her. How could love be this blind????
Just had a message from my friend complaining that her followers are unfollowing her on her twitter account.
I tried to resonate with her that her twitter account consists of her followers aligned to her professional industry and that retweeting all content from her partners account who is in law enforcement will loose her a lot of followers as his tweets will not be relevant to them.
Are there any therapist out there, I am beginning to feel concerned that this man is manipulating and brainwashing her. How could love be this blind????
Your "friend" seems to be quite willing to participate in this "relationship" – I don't see how the guy is "manipulating and brainwashing" her. Manipulation can also be posting all of those messages about lack of respect and care, etc., so she's playing right along.
Has she asked you directly for your opinion? Do you actually see her in person or is this all online?
She will have to save herself or go down with the ship. You seem overinvolved.
It is sometimes very exhausting to have to read some of the negative responses.
You have already been advised to stop following her/reading the responses.
I do believe it would take a hellova lot of something different for me to post anything more in your thread about your friend.
Have fun making yourself miserable over it.
Your "friend" seems to be quite willing to participate in this "relationship" – I don't see how the guy is "manipulating and brainwashing" her. Manipulation can also be posting all of those messages about lack of respect and care, etc., so she's playing right along.
Has she asked you directly for your opinion? Do you actually see her in person or is this all online?
She will have to save herself or go down with the ship. You seem overinvolved.
In response to your questions, I see her regularly as we work together and have known her since we were kids. She does not listen to my advice I offer her as a friend, I don't want to upset her but she is not happy and is always stressed out.
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Manipulation can also be posting all of those messages about lack of respect and care, etc., so she's playing right along.
I have never really thought of it like that. I saw it as her being hurt, her venting online, then posting, him feeling guilty, they make up, but the cycle keeps repeating itself.
I feel embarrassed for her as she keeps retweeting all of his tweets and likes, people are unfollowing her and it just doesn't look healthy. I tried to explain to her by liking everything he posts and tweets will not encourage him to like her more and try to be herself. Surely, he should point that out to her too or is it a case that he enjoys his ego being stroked, all the while there is absolutely no interaction coming from him. He completely dismisses and ignores her online, it appears that she is invisible to him.
In response to your questions, I see her regularly as we work together and have known her since we were kids. She does not listen to my advice I offer her as a friend, I don't want to upset her but she is not happy and is always stressed out.
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Manipulation can also be posting all of those messages about lack of respect and care, etc., so she's playing right along.
I have never really thought of it like that. I saw it as her being hurt, her venting online, then posting, him feeling guilty, they make up, but the cycle keeps repeating itself.
I feel embarrassed for her as she keeps retweeting all of his tweets and likes, people are unfollowing her and it just doesn't look healthy. I tried to explain to her by liking everything he posts and tweets will not encourage him to like her more and try to be herself. Surely, he should point that out to her too or is it a case that he enjoys his ego being stroked, all the while there is absolutely no interaction coming from him. He completely dismisses and ignores her online, it appears that she is invisible to him.
I appreciate your compassion for your friend but as you have tried and tried to explain to her and she doesn't want to hear you, there is nothing more you can do.
I think you already know this.
You can't make her see a therapist, you cannot make her do anything – even understanding her part in this debacle if she will not help herself. This guy and what he is doing almost doesn't matter. "Happiness" will elude her as long as she cannot see her part in this mess and remove herself from his influence. That would mean not following his Twitter, Facebook or mutual "friends." But only she can do this. She is participating in making her stress.
I suggest that you pull back, offer no more advice, and don't give her an ear to complain about him. (I know this will be difficult for you.) Change the subject if she does. See what happens.
It is sometimes very exhausting to have to read some of the negative responses.
It's even more exhausting to read all the rants you have about a grown-up woman whose business is none of your affair.
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