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Old 11-24-2017, 07:54 AM
 
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I gave up about 10 years ago. I'm physically unattractive, unable to do anything about it, and I have found that men are very hung up on looks. They won't even consider a woman who isn't pretty. "There has to be physical attraction!" they cry, but they expect women to love their flawed selves just the way they are. I'm done with trying to please men.

I live a life where I do what I want, when I want, and no one is holding me back. Sure it would be nice sometimes to be held and kissed, but it's not worth the misery of a relationship for me, and I'm not a one-night-stand kind of person.

I became a lot happier once I stopped caring what other people think of me and started focusing on doing things I find rewarding and meaningful. Art, creative writing and such. If, against all odds, some interested person came along, they would have to be pretty damn special to make me want to let them into my life.
We seem to have similar outlooks. Glad you're happy
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Old 11-24-2017, 10:50 AM
 
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Haven't given up, but I'm not out looking for it. If it happens, it happens. It's happened before, it'll happen again when its the right time.
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Old 11-24-2017, 11:40 AM
 
Location: Cleverly concealed
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I know a few people who have given up, myself included. I just didn't have the right qualities women wanted, I recognized it, and I'm fine with pursuing interests alone. Most people I know are in good (on the surface) relationships or marriages.

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Old 11-24-2017, 02:19 PM
 
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Haven't given up, but I'm not out looking for it. If it happens, it happens. It's happened before, it'll happen again when its the right time.
That's precisely my attitude about it.
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Old 11-24-2017, 07:33 PM
 
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The coworkers I mentioned all say things along the lines of "Happy wife, Happy life." So it may not be anxiety insecurity....

What it does imply is that their happiness that their lives do revolve around the wife; not necessarily a bad thing. Of course, the wife reciprocates.... thus both are happy.

For some people, (such as MillennialUrbanist and to a certain extent perhaps I included) it isn't so much an agenda as much as a person that does subscribe to the idea that their happiness should revolve around anything but themselves. The notion of "Happy wife, Happy life." may seem stifling and suffocating.... it is their reality.

What happens when the "happy wife" is seemingly unattainable and efforts are not reciprocated? ... ok that's another topic.. but the end result is that I started to look for happiness elsewhere and from within. Hence.. I may given up on relationships but not necessarily love.
That "happy wife, happy life" is such a ridiculous saying. Things need to go both ways and to me that implies that the women is in complete control and men's feelings men nothing. Both people should be happy, and just because the wife is unhappy because of something ridiculous, doesn't mean the men should give up their lifestyle or opinion because of it.

If your happiness is dependent upon some else's happiness, you will never truly be happy. To me a real relationship is when it benefits both people, not one sacrificing substantially more then the other.
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Old 11-25-2017, 02:03 PM
 
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I don't doubt you're telling the truth, but there seems like there is more to the story. How did you end up asking out such nasty women? Did you not speak to them beforehand to get a sense of what they were like? If so, did they seem like they were interested in you? Usually women are not socialized to be devastatingly rude to a person's face, so you either have a knack for picking some winners, or there were some social cues that you missed.
Forgive the late reply. I don't check this site as much as I used to and just saw this.

But to answer your question, I didn't ask those two women out myself. You'll remember I mentioned I had been fed up several times by family and friends. Those were two fix ups. The funny thing was, I was told that THEY were warned about my disability in advance and were told that it was no problem.

Eh. It is what it is.
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Old 11-25-2017, 03:04 PM
 
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Haven't given up, but I'm not out looking for it. If it happens, it happens. It's happened before, it'll happen again when its the right time.
That's what I say, except I'd add "if at all" (since there's no guarantee).

Years ago, I chased women during certain periods, even caught some. But I felt that it was too much effort compared to the results (and, as in that Fleetwood Mac song, "women, they will come and they will go"). I decided I didn't like working that hard (that is, when not at work!).

Also, some say that as men get older, at some point women start chasing them. Sounds good to me, as I plan to be older later!

However, the "no guarantees" clause also applies in this case. So far, not much chasing coming my way, but I did notice that there are women who seem to have "daddy issues" and/or economic issues. I don't find it appealing. This is something I experienced, and also observed happening with some men I know.

So I wouldn't say I've given up, but I make no assumption that anything in particular is bound to happen.
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Old 11-26-2017, 02:41 PM
 
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I see from my reps someone is happy I don't post here, the feelings mutual I like it alot over at mgtow. Next time don't be such a coward and leave a name.
You know, You can do what you want, go where you want. But if you're going to go somewhere or do something, you don't have to keep announcing it. Just FYI.

Now, back to not giving up on love.
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Old 11-26-2017, 04:17 PM
 
Location: singapore
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Well..
I was building my company since I was 12.
Invested my whole soul into it until I am here.
I got everything I wanted from myself. Smart, perfect body, money and so on.
I thought this was what girls wanted and I was kinda right.
And So I met only gold diggers and I had to learn in diffrent ways on how to spot it.
I was so lonely that you have no idea how much effort I put in just to be perfect as a man, to destroy my competition.
At the end, I was unlucky to not meet a single girl that would accept my true self. Only the man that I've built over the years and well.. If a girl can't love me for who I am, rather than what I have. Then after 10years, when my family will never have to work a day in their lives again I'l let them have it and all my closest friends and will just end myself.
It ain't even depressive nor it's a specific timelimit. You have no idea where I have been and what I have experienced.

Life is good.
This is so food for thought...
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Old 11-27-2017, 07:51 AM
 
Location: Between West Chester and Chester, PA
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I've largely given up on love because the caliber of quality women is low. Either some of them don't have common sense or they would rather emulate their favorite reality TV star. The irony is that I've NEVER bothered to look because something tells me I'd be disappointed in what I find. Here's the thing: I'm used to being single that I've come to appreciate my freedom & independence. I'm not responsible for another person, I don't have to compromise, deal with the ups and downs of a relationship; life is good for me this way. I'm not the kind of man that likes to date multiple women JUST to find the right one, let alone date the wrong women in order to find the right one or appreciate a good woman (that's stupid IMO). I'd rather get it right the first time, and that takes discernment to know the right woman who comes into my life.
Likewise.
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