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I hate to say this, but it sounds like you may be the reason the date didn't go very well. Put yourself in his shoes, he drove a long way and you were, according to you, coming off as bitchy or uninterested.
An hour distance is only an issue if you are not both willing to make an effort. My husband and I initially lived about 45 mins apart.
I agree. The OP was not really in the mood, which might have been why the date felt he had to sustain the conversation during dinner. Then she picked a place she didn’t end up liking, which is hardly his fault.
The best option now is just to try to meet after work since you are both already in the same area. You can either do a Friday so you don’t have to worry about being out late, or a weekday if you want to keep it shorter. I don’t think the distance is a huge deal. Particularly in a larger city, many people are going to be a distance from their jobs.
I get what you're saying, but only two dates in I wouldn't feel comfortable getting sexual with him just yet and having him stay over or vice versa.
Oh, I didn't mean to have sex with him now, or anytime soon, but eventually, that would be an issue. So if you like him date after work, like a Friday night, and see how it goes.
I agree. The OP was not really in the mood, which might have been why the date felt he had to sustain the conversation during dinner. Then she picked a place she didn’t end up liking, which is hardly his fault.
The best option now is just to try to meet after work since you are both already in the same area. You can either do a Friday so you don’t have to worry about being out late, or a weekday if you want to keep it shorter. I don’t think the distance is a huge deal. Particularly in a larger city, many people are going to be a distance from their jobs.
Sounds reasonable
Can you take turns traveling the distance, bebe? Offer to come his way next time?
Weird thing happened today, he texted me earlier today telling me about his night and asking me how my day is going, I responded and asked how his was going....no response. This exchange happened 6 hours ago. The longest it’s ever taken him to respond is maybe 2 hours. I’d say he lost interest, but then why bother texting me?
Don't give up, bebe. Listen, how about inviting him to dinner for two at your place. He can cook (that could be fun, him trying to navigate your kitchen) - or
you cook. Or you grab a takeaway or something. Just do something. Then he goes home. No sex involved just yet. Just thought.
Weird thing happened today, he texted me earlier today telling me about his night and asking me how my day is going, I responded and asked how his was going....no response. This exchange happened 6 hours ago. The longest it’s ever taken him to respond is maybe 2 hours. I’d say he lost interest, but then why bother texting me?
6 hours? don't do this. Was he at work? People do other things all day long. Wait for a response before you begin to interpret.
Also: do you even want to see him again?
If so, show a little enthusiasm!
6 hours? don't do this. Was he at work? People do other things all day long. Wait for a response before you begin to interpret.
Also: do you even want to see him again?
If so, show a little enthusiasm!
Yes!
OP, it's not over. He messaged you! But since you feel you gave him a bad date, you take the next step and invite him out. Like I said earlier - to your place for dinner after work or something. Go for it! Don't let him slip away.
Dates have hiccups. I don't think dates always go off perfect like we envision them. I'm dating a single mom of 2 kids right now and to say it's been hard for me, is a bit of an understatement. You almost have to take all expectations away and almost not care how things turn out for few weeks or months. You're not in each other's backyards, so things are going to come up and you're going to be dealing with situations that will impact your dynamic early on. A long distance relationship is hard before you ever even meet. Not only does it take planning and coordinating, but you also have to figure out how to not be disappointed when plans fall through. It's a hard dynamic to balance, but it can work if both people want it too. That's the key though. Both people have to want it to work.
I hate to say this, but it sounds like you may be the reason the date didn't go very well. Put yourself in his shoes, he drove a long way and you were, according to you, coming off as bitchy or uninterested.
An hour distance is only an issue if you are not both willing to make an effort. My husband and I initially lived about 45 mins apart.
I agree with CapsChick, OP.
What to do? Go on a 3rd date! But you initiate and offer to go to him.
My husband and I lived 90 minutes apart for the first 1 1/2 years of our relationship. If both want it to work, it can work.
I hate to say this, but it sounds like you may be the reason the date didn't go very well. Put yourself in his shoes, he drove a long way and you were, according to you, coming off as bitchy or uninterested.
An hour distance is only an issue if you are not both willing to make an effort. My husband and I initially lived about 45 mins apart.
I agree with this. He drove an hour to see you, was enthusiastic, seemed to have a great time with you, went to a place you suggested, and it's like you're annoyed at him for whatever reason because it wasn't as built up as it was in your head.
Just curious, what exactly was the OP expecting? I whirlwind night of romance? Because to me, it sounds like the OP was just tired and having an off night....but I don't get why you're blaming the guy unless he was annoying or a bad kisser or something along those lines.
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don't do this. Was he at work? People do other things all day long. Wait for a response before you begin to interpret.
