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he just responded, but no explanation as to why it took so long to answer, other than mentioning he worked til 10pm last night, but he can text at work, he always does.
Who cares why it took so long? Why is this relevant?
Who cares why it took so long? Why is this relevant?
Because it's not like him, prior to this it would never take him longer than an hour or two to respond, and his texts just sounded more engaging. I also feel that its inconsiderate/disrespectful to text someone back almost a day later without any explanation or apology.
Do not, do not, do freakin' NOT, be one of those that starts taking someone not texting back on your imaginary timetable as an indication of anything unless the reply never comes at all!
And as I'm typing he just responded, but no explanation as to why it took so long to answer, other than mentioning he worked til 10pm last night, but he can text at work, he always does.
He kinda did explain it to you.
Also, why does he need to explain why it took so long for him to text? This whole topic is about you just having your second date. You're not in a relationship yet.
I kinda believe your expectations are already set at a high level and that's what's ruining things with this guy off the bat. You're too focused on something in the future instead of just being in the present. If he was busy with work, he was busy with work. He doesn't need to explain anything further than that. People get busy with life.
He sounds like he was a really good sport, in spite of your not being much in the mood for a date, and your not liking the band or crowd after dinner. By your description, he was really making an effort to see that both of you had a good time. This sounds like a good guy, except possibly for the talking about himself part. (Even if there was nervousness on the first date, by the 2nd date, if he's at least somewhat into you, he should be tuning into you more, trying to get to know you.) Anyway, it sounds like the reason things didn't click on the 2nd date has more to do with your not really being up for a date at that particular time. And in addition to that, the 2nd venue didn't work for you, which happens sometimes; shouldn't be a deal-breaker.
But at this point, you may not have a choice of a third date. Either he's waiting until you have your vacation and return, to suggest another date, or he's not into it, in which case, you could suggest getting together, and see how he responds.
Also, why does he need to explain why it took so long for him to text? This whole topic is about you just having your second date. You're not in a relationship yet.
I kinda believe your expectations are already set at a high level and that's what's ruining things with this guy off the bat. You're too focused on something in the future instead of just being in the present. If he was busy with work, he was busy with work. He doesn't need to explain anything further than that. People get busy with life.
If it were me and it took me a day to respond at this point I would apologize for the late response. I'm not saying this is a deal breaker, I'm just saying I've been exchanging texts him for about 3 weeks and this is not like him.
I agree neither of us owe each other anything at this point, however I would've just appreciated a little common courtesy here.
I just feel our texts have been different since Saturday night, but I guess understandably so. Maybe both of us feel the same way, and are just not sure if we want to give this another shot.
If it were me and it took me a day to respond at this point I would apologize for the late response. I'm not saying this is a deal breaker, I'm just saying I've been exchanging texts him for about 3 weeks and this is not like him.
I agree neither of us owe each other anything at this point, however I would've just appreciated a little common courtesy here.
I just feel our texts have been different since Saturday night, but I guess understandably so. Maybe both of us feel the same way, and are just not sure if we want to give this another shot.
You sound like you still want to give it another shot but you're afraid he might not want to so you're convincing yourself that you might not want to either, to cushion the blow. Wait a couple of days and suggest a get together this weekend...one where you drive out to meet him.
If it were me and it took me a day to respond at this point I would apologize for the late response. I'm not saying this is a deal breaker, I'm just saying I've been exchanging texts him for about 3 weeks and this is not like him.
I agree neither of us owe each other anything at this point, however I would've just appreciated a little common courtesy here.
I just feel our texts have been different since Saturday night, but I guess understandably so. Maybe both of us feel the same way, and are just not sure if we want to give this another shot.
Again, this is why I say to stop texting so much and just be direct and see if he wants to meet up again. Honestly, though, the vibe I'm getting sounds like you're only posting about this to talk yourself out of seeing him again. You had a second date so something good must've happened, and you're going out of town and he knows that.
Besides the lack of texting, what exactly don't you like about him? Because it seems like you are trying to talk yourself out of liking this guy for whatever reason. And us guys can sense when a girl does that.
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