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There are two sayings, one is old and and the other is newer. The old saying I don't agree with. Most folks have heard the old saying, "There are plenty of fish in the sea." The saying is basically saying there are plenty more women about there who are available. That part of the saying I agree with. However, the fishing part is what is wrong with the idea. In most cases, fishing is about just staying in one stop. In some fishing, you just wait till the bobber moves before doing anything, in others you are still, but constant cast a line. In both cases it is a waiting game, with not much movement or action from the fisherman.
The more recent play on this concept is the phrase abundance mentality. This is where men need to take the mental notion that there is an abundance of available women to date, but that it is on them to get out there and make it happen. There is no corresponding part of the phrase that paints this idea of just sitting around and waiting, and waiting, and waiting till the woman (fish) comes to you.
Don't waste your time with something that is going no where. Don't try to make something where there is nothing because you're scared that nothing else will come along and maybe you don't want to go out and face rejection. Take a pass and go and get what you want. If you find someone and it doesn't look like it is what you're looking for, go get something else.
There are two sayings, one is old and and the other is newer. The old saying I don't agree with. Most folks have heard the old saying, "There are plenty of fish in the sea." The saying is basically saying there are plenty more women about there who are available. That part of the saying I agree with. However, the fishing part is what is wrong with the idea. In most cases, fishing is about just staying in one stop. In some fishing, you just wait till the bobber moves before doing anything, in others you are still, but constant cast a line. In both cases it is a waiting game, with not much movement or action from the fisherman.
The more recent play on this concept is the phrase abundance mentality. This is where men need to take the mental notion that there is an abundance of available women to date, but that it is on them to get out there and make it happen. There is no corresponding part of the phrase that paints this idea of just sitting around and waiting, and waiting, and waiting till the woman (fish) comes to you.
Don't waste your time with something that is going no where. Don't try to make something where there is nothing because you're scared that nothing else will come along and maybe you don't want to go out and face rejection. Take a pass and go and get what you want. If you find someone and it doesn't look like it is what you're looking for, go get something else.
There's also pro bass fishing, where you catch and release dozens of fish in like an hour
If she's expressly said she's lost interest in the relationship, then we have a frank conversation, see if we can determine the root cause of the issue, and see if can be reasonably remedied or not. If not, then we decide if it's best to go our separate ways.
I have a lot going of goals and interests that I am working toward, so if that means there isn't time to 'entertain' her in the relationship, then so be it. I would hope that she keeps herself busy enough too in life and doesn't feel the need to try to keep my interest.
She might be losing interest because of you, something you're saying, doing.
Or, she might just be one of those people who is very interested in the beginning, but quickly loses interest.
Without any input from her on the matter, you can never really know. It's frustrating, but the blunt truth; and even asking is no guarantee, since the second type doesn't really know why they lost interest, they "just did." The problem lies with them, not you, in that case.
But I will say this:
No matter what the movies and books say about pursuing a woman to prove your love to her, NEVER do this. Not ever. There is a reason for the word fiction, and a resolution based on fiction, no matter from which side, cannot withstand the test of all the realities yet to come. It takes TWO to tango, one trying to tango with an unwilling partner just results in a bunch of awkward floundering before one walks and the other is left standing on the floor wondering what the hell just happened.
If she's leaving for her own reasons, she's already choosing those reasons OVER you. You do not stand up to them.
If she's leaving you for NO real reason, she was never going to stay anyway.
If she's leaving because of something you're doing, you're not going to simply stop overnight. The best you can hope for is that she tells you, and you decide whether she's right or wrong, and then work on yourself. Most of the time we don't get to hear those reasons, we end up always wondering, often repeating our mistakes.
Nevertheless, if you start feeling like you have to prove to someone what you're worth in order to keep them, it's time to lose them. They already can't/won't see what you're worth, so the bottom line is you're not worth much to them.
Make sure you're worth more than that to yourself.
If you just met not too long ago, I would say she figured out you aren't compatible. Best to let it go.
If you have been together for a while, that means you have been compatible in her eyes and something happened to make her lose interest. Best to talk about it and see if there is a chance to reconnect.
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