Feel quite uncomfortable doing these thing. Am I wrong?

[Ted Bear]

When someone demands or forces you to do something with which you are not comfortable and have told that person as much, it is called abuse.


If it starts with something as vile as web cam sex, I can only imagine to where it will degrade.


Say no, and shut off the camera, and the computer, and wait for him to behave as a man instead of a little boy looking to get his rocks off.

[Auraliea]

To me this issue seems really minor in terms of how much it contributes to the actual relationship. I wouldn't want my relationship to be centered around sexting/being freaky on camera.

However, if the OP doesn't feel comfortable doing it, all she can do is express that to her husband. If he cheats or ends the marriage over that, then it wasn't meant to be in the first place. I've heard enough stories about nudes and videos being sent around the world to keep me in check.

Just saying.

[wowowee]

Originally Posted by Ted Bear

When someone demands or forces you to do something with which you are not comfortable and have told that person as much, it is called abuse.


If it starts with something as vile as web cam sex, I can only imagine to where it will degrade.


Say no, and shut off the camera, and the computer, and wait for him to behave as a man instead of a little boy looking to get his rocks off.

Agreed. Unfortunately OP said she has history of sexual abuse which made me wonder why she said she also was virgin when she married.

My husband asked me once to record the sexy time I vehemently said NO! He said he will delete it after. No freaking way.

He also suggested anal. I said you have an arse too, want me to try on you first? See if you liked it? Since then, he ST-FU about it. LOL. Oh God, you know, I have learned men will try to slip one on you, to see if they can get away with it, it's up to you to put a stop to it.

Like my husband used to ALWAYS biatch to me that I wait for him to open the door for me, I snapped one time at him and really cussed him in public. Guess who is not whining now. He said now that I know you are gonna get mad, I won't do it anymore.


If he really is into you, he will be tamed. If he did not, then he will cheat or still do what he wants. What's important is standing your ground, really, from the get go.