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I live in Miami Beach and she lives in Boca Raton, which is a good 45 miles to the north. We see eachother every weekend for the entire weekend. So it's not like we don't see eachother relatively often. The problem is that after work and school (I'm in schools for my masters too), I don't feel like spending large amounts of time on the damn phone. Maybe 20 mins..max, per day. She on the other hand wants so much more. It's honestly annoying me. I hate just sitting on the phone all the time talking about what I had for lunch, what I'm having for dinner, and whatever else. it's not a productive use of my time right now.
Love her to death, but the constant need to be on the phone is starting to drive me up the wall. Also, she wants a phone call before bed each night to wish her a good night. Another thing I don't like doing.
Not to say I wanna end a relationship over this, but how do I gently tell her "I don't wanna talk to you as much on the phone..."
When we're together we talk all day long, no awkward pauses, or anything. Very natural and organic conversations that I enjoy immensely, but when it comes to the phone, it just aint for me.
Tell her you have never been much of a phone person AND, with all of the demands of your busy schedule, you would like to spend weekdays getting all of that out of the way, so you can enjoy your weekend with her.
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Apparently this is a new relationship so set these boundaries now before expectations increase. Remember what you went through with your boyfriend. //www.city-data.com/forum/non-r...l#post49679021
I read the link on OP's other thread. I agree on the replies there that you're introvert coz I feel exactly like you. I actually felt tired reading how you go about your day. LOL. But yeah, I need all my day offs to be just chilling or I will feel weird and restless, if not.
Not a phone person either. My husband and I barely talk, LOL. So yeah, maybe you and your guy are not compatible then. Find someone like you. I'm sure you will.
I live in Miami Beach and she lives in Boca Raton, which is a good 45 miles to the north. We see eachother every weekend for the entire weekend. So it's not like we don't see eachother relatively often. The problem is that after work and school (I'm in schools for my masters too), I don't feel like spending large amounts of time on the damn phone. Maybe 20 mins..max, per day. She on the other hand wants so much more. It's honestly annoying me. I hate just sitting on the phone all the time talking about what I had for lunch, what I'm having for dinner, and whatever else. it's not a productive use of my time right now.
Love her to death, but the constant need to be on the phone is starting to drive me up the wall. Also, she wants a phone call before bed each night to wish her a good night. Another thing I don't like doing.
Not to say I wanna end a relationship over this, but how do I gently tell her "I don't wanna talk to you as much on the phone..."
When we're together we talk all day long, no awkward pauses, or anything. Very natural and organic conversations that I enjoy immensely, but when it comes to the phone, it just aint for me.
Why don't you just TELL her what you've told us?I don't see how hard that could be?You said it in your post. "I don't wanna talk to you as much on the phone..."..and then explain WHY to her like you have to us? I don't think you're sounding mean at all.
Communication is the #1 that can make or break a relationship.You sound like you've been holding all this in.It will get worse if you don't talk to her about it.She should understand and not get hurt.If she does get hurt about this...then you might have to end it.
My husband is not a phone person either. Fine with me, and he has no problem ending a conversation after the first 5 minutes or so.
His friend is actually the worst offender in the blah blah blah department. He talks briefly, then tells his friend he has things to do.
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