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I almost closed that page when I saw the word “God.” But I resisted and read on and realized that I was guilty of this. I’m sure the regulars remember my yearlong thing with the Cincy girl. I emotionally invested myself too much into it. I pseudoed dated her thinking damn I got a keeper but I should have realized I caught feelings for someone I was never in the physical presence of.
I guess pseudo dating is better defined as getting too emotionally invested without checking yourself.
Well, it's just a blog post. And I don't really think that "pseudo dating" is the best descriptor.
It's definitely something we see here occasionally, where one person has attributed all these ideal qualities to a person they have a crush on, as Aureliea noted, and then when they finally ask out the other person and the other person says yes, they assume they are in a relationship (finally!) and that feelings are mutual.
I can think of multiple threads started by people who say they are confused about why the other person faded away when things seemed to be going so well. "I did everything right, and they lost interest."
It seems to be a problem of not seeing the situation as it really is but as you want it to be.
I almost closed that page when I saw the word “God.” But I resisted and read on and realized that I was guilty of this. I’m sure the regulars remember my yearlong thing with the Cincy girl. I emotionally invested myself too much into it. I pseudoed dated her thinking damn I got a keeper but I should have realized I caught feelings for someone I was never in the physical presence of.
I guess pseudo dating is better defined as getting too emotionally invested without checking yourself.
This part seems bizarre:
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He had been Pseudo Dating her. He was not on her radar at all, other than a friend from their group of friends. She started the thought process of dating him, the first time he asked her out. He had weeks and then months invested in her with his heart. In his mind and process that relationship was well into it's 3rd or even 4th month.
He already knows she is an early riser, he knows she likes her coffee a certain way, he knows she loves to take long walks, and wander in and out of shops. She knows nothing of him and is actually quite shy about asking all the important questions until she thinks she might even want to date him.
So...a crush? Like Auraliea said. I wouldn't call that any sort of "dating" when you're barely on the other person's radar. They're not even, like, a pen pal or something.
Mr. Meta and I hit it off instantly before we met in-person three weeks later due to distance. I hadn't moved near that area yet, but we interacted a ton, and there wasn't really a point we made it official. We were just together.
But I realize it can be hard not getting caught up in the fantasy element and warm fuzzy feelings. Where possible, I liked to meet ASAP to really cement, or further assess things like chemistry and such. But being so into someone that barely recognizes your existence or interest? We call that a crush.
I guess it's not as strange as having sex with ghosts and whatever else.
I guess it's not as strange as having sex with ghosts and whatever else.
That's why the term "pseudo dating" isn't applicable, really, because they weren't dating.
One person had an emotional attachment to a fantasy he had about a girl in his friend group. So by the time he asked her out and she said yes, he had already "dated her" for a month or two ... in his mind.
That's why the term "pseudo dating" isn't applicable, really, because they weren't dating.
One person had an emotional attachment to a fantasy he had about a girl in his friend group. So by the time he asked her out and she said yes, he had already "dated her" for a month or two ... in his mind.
I don't know
And since you found this topic so interesting you couldn't post an excerpt or give any idea what it was, I guess I never will.
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Originally Posted by The Dissenter
I almost closed that page when I saw the word “God.” But I resisted and read on and realized that I was guilty of this. I’m sure the regulars remember my yearlong thing with the Cincy girl. I emotionally invested myself too much into it. I pseudoed dated her thinking damn I got a keeper but I should have realized I caught feelings for someone I was never in the physical presence of.
I guess pseudo dating is better defined as getting too emotionally invested without checking yourself.
Based on this, I think someone I met online might be pseudo-dating me.
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