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You clearly don't understand how guys view Xmas shopping, or shopping in general.
I bet you this is how he's going to go about it.
He has a list. He will go as quickly as possible from one store to the next, trying to quickly find the items on the list. Where possible, if there's no decisions to be made, he will buy the one item as fast as possible. If there are decisions to be made, he will try to spend the minimum time on the decisions.
The last thing a guy going Christmas shopping a few days before Christmas wants, is someone going along with him "for the fun of shopping" who will linger over each decision, and constantly get sidetracked into the women's wear department where he has to root her out so he can get on with getting down the list.
Just let him get through this work item. When he can cross everything off the list, he will be able to relax again, knowing that's out of the way, and be available to hang out with you.
Wow, you need to relax. I have no idea why this would bother you. It's a busy time of year. And here is something that might be shocking to you, maybe he actually WANTS some alone time. Sometimes I love being alone. I need my alone time. And I would never ever want my husband to come shopping with me, never mind xmas shopping. Give the poor guy some space.
That's healthy! Someone said to me years ago, "If you can't enjoy your own company, there's a problem." It's so true. We may vary on how much time we each need to be alone, but someone who can't stand being alone, even when in a relationship, needs to do some self-examination.
I'm usually one of the first people to encourage someone to move on in cases where the relationship is either incompatible or it has run its course. However in your situation I don't think that's the answer because I don't think your bf is wrong. He just wants to get stuff done and not have to worry about entertaining you simultaneously. It's totally understandable, especially given the fact that Christmas is a couple of days away.
Instead of getting upset about this, just tell him it's fine, you'll go have lunch with your friends too (assuming you have some) and that you'll meet up in a day or two when you're both free. No big deal. I think you're more likely to push him away if you continue your current behavior.
I can't even stand to go grocery shopping with my husband. I want to get in, get the stuff, get out. My husband lingers in every isle, looks over all choices, ponders, then asks me what do I think.... drives me insane. I hate Christmas shopping with other people, it takes 5x longer. If I go shopping in retail stores with other people it's more of a social thing, not a get it done thing. Or I need their opinion.
Your boyfriend just wants to get it done efficiently.
I can't even stand to go grocery shopping with my husband. I want to get in, get the stuff, get out. My husband lingers in every isle, looks over all choices, ponders, then asks me what do I think.... drives me insane. I hate Christmas shopping with other people, it takes 5x longer. If I go shopping in retail stores with other people it's more of a social thing, not a get it done thing. Or I need their opinion.
Your boyfriend just wants to get it done efficiently.
I'm exactly like you but since the grocery store is next to my gym I'm there 4-5 times per week. I usually am buy 5-10 items at most and in/out in < 5 min through self checkout. I've learned the busy days/times so I go in off hours. I hate buying too much or un-needed items only to watch them go bad.
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