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Old 12-16-2017, 06:14 PM
 
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My fiancé who is long distance, we have been together for over two years. I had a bad dream and went online to see him active on online dating site. I think he just signed up this week. I don't know what to do, i felt we had good relationship and we talked about our plans for being together soon. He told me he loves me and that i complete him. I was so devastated to randomly just have a dream he was cheating so i checked the site where we met and saw him updated his profile and active. I told him about it and out of anger i said he was an idiot and he turned it on me and didn't answer any of my questions. I haven't heard from him since. I can't understand why he is doing this, our only problems is sometimes we couldn't figure out how to be together long term he thinks i hesitate. but to cheat on me over this seems unacceptable.

I feel so lost and it hurts so much, what should i do
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Old 12-16-2017, 06:40 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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DON'T GET MARRIED.

Sorry, you had to find out this way, but its all for the best.
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Old 12-16-2017, 06:40 PM
 
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It might hurt, but quickly walk away and forget about it. Think about the people that actually care about you and go from there, especially around the holiday season.
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Old 12-16-2017, 07:17 PM
 
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My fiancé who is long distance, we have been together for over two years. I had a bad dream and went online to see him active on online dating site. I think he just signed up this week. I don't know what to do, i felt we had good relationship and we talked about our plans for being together soon. He told me he loves me and that i complete him. I was so devastated to randomly just have a dream he was cheating so i checked the site where we met and saw him updated his profile and active. I told him about it and out of anger i said he was an idiot and he turned it on me and didn't answer any of my questions. I haven't heard from him since. I can't understand why he is doing this, our only problems is sometimes we couldn't figure out how to be together long term he thinks i hesitate. but to cheat on me over this seems unacceptable.

I feel so lost and it hurts so much, what should i do
I'm sorry he treated you this way. It hurts finding out he is not trustworthy and the man you thought he was. It is good to know than to be in the dark. He is being a class A jerk. One you do not want to.build a life with.

In the meantime, it hurts like.crazy to have your hope for the future stomped on. Be kind to yourself. No matter what you're facing, you can always be kind to you.

Best wishes to you.
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Old 12-16-2017, 07:27 PM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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Is that the same fiance who lives overseas?
That's very long distance. I bet he isn't interested in you anymore.
Remember your thread from April? He wasn't interested then either. What you expect? To see him once a year? That doesn't work...
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Old 12-16-2017, 07:30 PM
 
Location: Denver CO
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Maybe he was checking to see if you were active on the dating site, which you apparently are if you still have a profile and could log in to check up on him.
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Old 12-16-2017, 07:33 PM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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I'm sorry he treated you this way. It hurts finding out he is not trustworthy and the man you thought he was. It is good to know than to be in the dark. He is being a class A jerk. One you do not want to.build a life with.

In the meantime, it hurts like.crazy to have your hope for the future stomped on. Be kind to yourself. No matter what you're facing, you can always be kind to you.

Best wishes to you.
How is he Class A jerk??? I bet the whole "fiance" thing is only in OP's head.
They don't really have any "relationship", just some chats on the phone. Did he promissed her marriage? Are they exclusive? Maybe that's just OP's wishful thinking.
Talk is cheap...
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Old 12-16-2017, 07:44 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Is that the same fiance who lives overseas?
That's very long distance. I bet he isn't interested in you anymore.
Remember your thread from April? He wasn't interested then either. What you expect? To see him once a year? That doesn't work...
Is this the woman in S. America who has a "fiance" in Florida?


Yeah, OP--he's not interested. This shouldn't be a surprise to you at this point. As I vaguely recall from your previous thread, he doesn't even have legal residency in the US; he can't do anything for you, anyway. Find someone in your local community.
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Old 12-16-2017, 10:57 PM
 
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How is he Class A jerk??? I bet the whole "fiance" thing is only in OP's head.
They don't really have any "relationship", just some chats on the phone. Did he promissed her marriage? Are they exclusive? Maybe that's just OP's wishful thinking.
Talk is cheap...
Pardon me! Geezzz I didn't know the background, only what she wrote in her post here.
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Old 12-16-2017, 11:47 PM
 
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When you say "active" did he respond to your contact? If not, how does that make him "Active?"
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