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Hi, I am in a complicated situation and would like to know your opinion. My married superior (John) is having affair with another coworker (Lucy) and I know about it (they both know I know but telling me fairy tales). Lucy is an office **** and I was fooled by her too but found out that soon. John and his wife (Emily) are expecting a baby. Lucy and Emily are best friends. I know Emily personally. Now I need to make a decision what to do.
I would say that I am very popular at work while they not so much. I love my job and people there. If I quit I would not have any problem finding another job. I know for sure that it is not possible for me to work with them anymore as we are in contact everyday. I was thinking about these possibilities:
1. I quit without saying anything (just in general that they are the reason). I know if I quit, more coworkers are going to do the same and company will have problems.
2. Ask John and Lucy to quit.
3. Do nothing. As I wrote above it is not acceptable because I can't exist around them anymore.
I know all of it is none of my business. But I am very sorry for Emily and what is the worst, they do not have moral credit and I can't stand it. Apart from that they had sex at work.
What would you do in my position?
Thank you.
4. Stop getting so involved with your coworkers that their sex lives prevent you from doing your job.
The OP ( who we'll probably not hear from again) says the situation just upsets his sensibilities.
If he can afford to quit, that's on him.
Yeah, the OP used paragraphs to describe the somewhat outrageous situation so I didn't think to look and see s/he is a New Member with exactly one post.
I know this is probably a made up situation lol, but I don't care about anyone in this scenario but the pregnant wife. Really the question is how good of a friend is she? If she's a good friend your dilemma is whether to tell her or not IMO.
If she's not a close friend she probably won't believe you anyway so it's a moot point.
The job is not really an issue since you can leave if you want.
I lived with this situation once so it can happen. I wasn't friends with the pregnant wife though.
Coworker having affair with married man who had a pregnant wife who came round to visit time and again. The cheaters would blatantly make out and fondle in the hallways in plain view and stop by each other's desks and be too touchy feely. IMO that was wrong in a hospital setting regardless of marital status...but the out and out adultery was offensive to me. Idc if anyone thinks I have a right to that or not, it just was ick. Could not respect the parties involved and when pregnant wife stopped by I was very uncomfortable...especially if they were hiding in the broom closet going at it. "Umm...he was around a mnute ago, no idea where he went..." *shrug*.
I know all of it is none of my business. But I am very sorry for Emily and what is the worst, they do not have moral credit and I can't stand it. Apart from that they had sex at work.
What would you do in my position?
Thank you.
What I would do really doesn't matter.
This is about you. If you cannot hack it, you leave. And you keep your mouth shut.
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