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Something people will immediately attempt to jump towards with these style questions is to nullify the possibly by way of negating the idea that temptation equals actions.
Temptation and actually doing something are totally different
Everyone has “temptations” they cannot control, that’s being human.
We only have control over our actions, not our feelings or thoughts.
All this said, you would be better to qualify what you mean by saying “temptation” because people will immediately jump towards the extreme leaving it so nebulous.
Something people will immediately attempt to jump towards with these style questions is to nullify the possibly by way of negating the idea that temptation equals actions.
Temptation and actually doing something are totally different
Everyone has “temptations” they cannot control, that’s being human.
We only have control over our actions, not our feelings or thoughts.
All this said, you would be better to qualify what you mean by saying “temptation” because people will immediately jump towards the extreme leaving it so nebulous.
Being tempted just by looks? And 'tempted' meaning...jumping in the sack with said handsome dude? No.
Now...if you mean tempted by a charming smile, and smile lines in the corner of his eyes, and a cute personality..., and by tempted you mean tempted to flirt...maybe.
Can you see a really beautiful item in a store, perhaps that you cannot afford, even a store with lax security or no security that you see...and are you "tempted" to steal it?
I see and appreciate visually appealing things all the time. I might think, "Wow he's got great bone structure, striking eyes, and his hairstyle flatters his face shape." Just as I might think, "Wow, that is a very stylish coat made of lovely fabric" or "Wow, the clouds in this sunset are really something right now." And with my eyes, enjoy what I am looking at.
When it comes to humans, that does not equal an interest or even a willingness to be physically affectionate to that person. Like I have had good looking people come on to me, when I was perfectly single and available, and yet said no to them. I don't choose partners based on looks. I know some folks do, that's fine. I don't. Yes, I'm sure, no I'm not lying, truly I do not. A person has to be really, fiercely, shockingly hideous, to fall below my minimum threshold of looks, and they can just as easily be "too pretty" for my liking.
In my life, good-looking =/= attractive =/= temptation. And if I have my "partner seeking" behaviors in the off mode, because I am not available, then no one tempts me to sex at all, unless it's someone I have already been with in the past and continue to have some sort of feeling for, unresolved and lingering, perhaps. No one new. At all.
If my partner's friend tempts me, it's because I no longer truly want the person to be my partner. I'm unhappy, kind of want to end it, but feel stuck for some reason. And they're way more likely to tempt me by being "there" and kind, if I'm in a miserable relationship to a jerk and I want out. But if I'm in a happy relationship, the best looking guy on the planet won't tempt me to cheat.
Does it ever get tempting if one of your husband/boyfriends good friends is really attractive? Or does your brain not ever go there?
Not saying you'd do anything with him but do you ever think about it or fantasize?
Good looking, loaded, great personality, humble, kind, generous in every way...NO! I get to wake up with myself (now single) everyday by myself knowing who I am and what I'm worth.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 12-19-2017 at 08:45 AM..
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Does it ever get tempting if one of your husband/boyfriends good friends is really attractive? Or does your brain not ever go there?
Not saying you'd do anything with him but do you ever think about it or fantasize?
One) This question is gender neutral
Two) There is a big difference between tempted and attracted.
Three) You are going to find other people attractive, a significant other isn't going to change that.
Four) If you are tempted that means one of two things: you are "tempted" to make a move on an unsuspecting friend or you are "tempted" to succumb to unsolicited advances. Either way that makes you a "pelandusca"
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