Is it feminine for a guy to ask the woman for a commitment first? (dating, girlfriend)
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I have heard guys say that a man should just keep dating a woman until she asks for a commitment first and that if a guy is the first one to ask for a commitment from a woman than he is feminine. What do you think about this? Guys, in your relationships with women, who brought up the idea of you two becoming a couple first..was it you or the woman?
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If I want it, I ask. If they do ask, they ask. I'm not going to worry about appearing "feminine" or some other such nonsense. I can't imagine anyone I'm attracted to caring about such dynamics.
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Originally Posted by va_bank
Men don't have as much leverage in this situation. What are you going to do if she says "no"? Withhold sex from her? Yeah, right.
I've ended relationships, and had relationships end on me, for one of us turning down exclusivity. That is hardly a far fetched notion.
I have heard guys say that a man should just keep dating a woman until she asks for a commitment first and that if a guy is the first one to ask for a commitment from a woman than he is feminine. What do you think about this? Guys, in your relationships with women, who brought up the idea of you two becoming a couple first..was it you or the woman?
Well, I asked her to marry me, she asked for more time, then later she asked me and I said yes. That was 30 years ago. Still married. I don't think of myself as a particularly "feminine" guy.
I think y'all are spending too much time worrying about "doing it the right way" and not enough time being here now.
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