Online dating - Is this a date (woman, husband, friends)

[Haksel257]

It was a clever, vague way of saying "If we can have a second date, I'll absolutely pay"

[wowowee]

That's why I never pay for any of my meets. I don't even bring my purse. I keep it in my car. What I don't get is why you don't just give him your share. Why ask? If I want to pay my share I just give my share no questions asked.

[MrRational]

Originally Posted by PetiteGem

I asked him if he wanted me to pay my share, he smiled and asked me is this a date.
I wasn't sure but thought it was.

Nope. It was just a meet. No matter how well it went.

I am not sure what (a) proper response would have been...?

You say: Next time can be the date.

[srschirm]

I'd had to have been there, but depending on how he said it, it could be his way of flirting.

[Pilot1]

As Tony Soprano said. "I pay......you eat".

[jencam]

I think he wanted to see if she agreed it was a date and that was a cute way of finding out.

[jencam]

hahahahahahahhahahahaon a first date that I knew was a first date, and that more would come I razzed the guy. He said something about 'on our first date' and I said oh, this is a first date, is it? He got flustered until I smiled. I wonder if he was also testing the waters with that remark.

[PetiteGem]

I don't know what I should be doing since the waitress brought one check. I thought I was supposed to offer which is why I asked if he wants me to pay my share. Bear in mind, I haven't dated in over a decade so it's all new to me. For next time, am I supposed to just put my portion of the check on the table? Should I reach for my purse? Do I ask? Do I excuse myself for the ladies room? Stressful to say the least.

[Amelie90]

Originally Posted by PetiteGem

I don't know what I should be doing since the waitress brought one check. I thought I was supposed to offer which is why I asked if he wants me to pay my share. Bear in mind, I haven't dated in over a decade so it's all new to me. For next time, am I supposed to just put my portion of the check on the table? Should I reach for my purse? Do I ask? Do I excuse myself for the ladies room? Stressful to say the least.

Well, it depends. I know there are women out there who would never dream of splitting the bill, so if that’s you then I guess you just sit there and smile until he pays for everything. If that’s not you, then you reach for your purse when the bill comes. It’s not really stressful.

[jencam]

I vote for the purse grab.