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Personally, I would. I don't say that because I have fantasies of dating a beautiful porn star, I say that because if I like a woman, I like her no matter what her job is. In fact, in some ways I'm probably a porn star's ideal guy. I wouldn't obsess over their work (I'm sure there are creepy dudes who start asking creepy questions once they find out a woman does porn) and I don't really judge people on their jobs unless they sell drugs or are involved in some other criminal enterprise.
Given the fact that in live in New Jersey and not LA or Miami, the chances of me actually dating a porn star are slim to none.
I know I'm not your target demographic to answer this (I am a woman, but I am bisexual) but I'd date a porn star. Particularly a female one. It would probably be really good for me to overcome some of my hangups on the subject of porn, if I did. Get to know a real human who is involved in it, in all of her human imperfection, and love her as a person...that would likely go a long way toward me being comfortable with the whole thing.
Right now, even though intellectually I have zero problem with porn (except of course anything that is trafficking or exploitative, obviously) the fact that my boyfriend enjoys it, and contemplating the fact that most men enjoy it, gives me an irrational discomfort in the vicinity of my heart, or maybe my stomach...just a bad shrinky-inside feeling that I will never be enough for any man so I should not even try, why would I be if they've got any and every kind of woman doing every and any kind of thing, right there. With me, he's got to deal with a whole person, flaws, moods and all...and the fact that while I still look alright (or so I'm told) I am not getting any younger. With porn, he gets only the good stuff, endless free supply of it, endlessly young and perfect bodies... It's impossible to compete with. At least it feels that way.
Logically I know better...emotionally I struggle.
And I can't say why, but if I had a relationship with a woman who performed it in, it very well might have an effect, and I would totally be down to try if the opportunity were to occur. I doubt, however, that it will. *shrug*
Define date? If I were single and somehow got an opportunity to go out with a pornstar, I would. As long as she is OK with places I can afford. I would probably enjoy protected sex with a pornstar although it is hard to tell for sure. But I would most definitely not have a committed relationship with her. No of course would I marry her while she was still active...
I know I'm not your target demographic to answer this (I am a woman, but I am bisexual) but I'd date a porn star. Particularly a female one. It would probably be really good for me to overcome some of my hangups on the subject of porn, if I did. Get to know a real human who is involved in it, in all of her human imperfection, and love her as a person...that would likely go a long way toward me being comfortable with the whole thing.
Right now, even though intellectually I have zero problem with porn (except of course anything that is trafficking or exploitative, obviously) the fact that my boyfriend enjoys it, and contemplating the fact that most men enjoy it, gives me an irrational discomfort in the vicinity of my heart, or maybe my stomach...just a bad shrinky-inside feeling that I will never be enough for any man so I should not even try, why would I be if they've got any and every kind of woman doing every and any kind of thing, right there. With me, he's got to deal with a whole person, flaws, moods and all...and the fact that while I still look alright (or so I'm told) I am not getting any younger. With porn, he gets only the good stuff, endless free supply of it, endlessly young and perfect bodies... It's impossible to compete with. At least it feels that way.
Logically I know better...emotionally I struggle.
And I can't say why, but if I had a relationship with a woman who performed it in, it very well might have an effect, and I would totally be down to try if the opportunity were to occur. I doubt, however, that it will. *shrug*
SS - I get where you're coming from intellectually but surely you know that there is a lot of really bad porn out there where the bodies are nothing special...and they look awkward and uncomfortable...and not particularly special. And it IS viewed...there is a "market" for it. Most guys (and women) seem to be able to suspend disbelief and get off on even poor quality porn which indicates to me that men especially don't require THAT much special handling for them to be appreciative. A little experience with a few partners and I'd guess you are certainly at least at "par" for the course if not better. Why would you ever compare yourself with porn? Stop it!
Personally, I would. I don't say that because I have fantasies of dating a beautiful porn star, I say that because if I like a woman, I like her no matter what her job is. In fact, in some ways I'm probably a porn star's ideal guy. I wouldn't obsess over their work (I'm sure there are creepy dudes who start asking creepy questions once they find out a woman does porn) and I don't really judge people on their jobs unless they sell drugs or are involved in some other criminal enterprise.
Given the fact that in live in New Jersey and not LA or Miami, the chances of me actually dating a porn star are slim to none.
How much porn have you watched? I haven't watched much, but I've never seen any that had a beautiful woman in it. They tend to be plain Janes. IDK, I guess I've seen the wrong ones, lol. For some reason, the producers choose very ordinary-looking women. "Porn star" really doesn't mean much, except that you're willing to disrobe for the camera.
SS - I get where you're coming from intellectually but surely you know that there is a lot of really bad porn out there where the bodies are nothing special...and they look awkward and uncomfortable...and not particularly special. And it IS viewed...there is a "market" for it. Most guys (and women) seem to be able to suspend disbelief and get off on even poor quality porn which indicates to me that men especially don't require THAT much special handling for them to be appreciative. A little experience with a few partners and I'd guess you are certainly at least at "par" for the course if not better. Why would you ever compare yourself with porn? Stop it!
Bad conditioning. Has to with the ex, still not 100% over all the damaging stuff that went down in that relationship, but I work on it. Like I said, in my THINKING I know better...it's in my stupid feels that I am not quite right. I'd love to change that, and I'm working on it some (I've gotten surprisingly good at self-therapy work in the last couple years) it's just persistent and kind of annoying.
The heart doesn't always listen to the mind.
I actually have a girl-crush on a sex worker, but she is a pro Domme from Denver. I wouldn't pursue anything with her (distance, time, life reasons aplenty) but I have no problem admitting she gives me the flutters.
Of course for me to date anyone, they have to be smart, sane, not addicts, not human train wrecks. It's just, I don't believe/assume that someone is any of that just because they do some kind of sex work.
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