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I'll bet you know a good few clueless guys who had to basically have the girl sit in their lap to guess that there was a potential "something" there.
*raises hand* Once I stopped flinching and/or cringing, though, I would dust myself down and explain to the girl in question that her attraction was one sided and definitely not in her best interest.
The typical Scribbles response to anything other than a dog or cat landing in my lap is 'Smithers, get it off me!'
I'm not aggressive with women. But when it comes to other things in life, that is where I put my aggression. As far as women, there is always someone that meets me along the way.
This is all so complicated to me, not to mention unnecessary.
I don't approach anyone. Once in a very great while somebody will catch my eye, but the level of attraction is never enough for me to consider turning my life upside down to make room for them, so I let it go. The spark, if it existed outside my imagination, is extinguished almost as soon as it flares and I can go back to whatever I was doing. Easy.
Mercifully, I have not had to deal with anyone approaching me. Such a person would most likely be a sandwich or two short of a picnic hamper (as you'd need to be if you wanted a solitary, untrusting, cynical misanthrope like me anywhere near you) and wouldn't react well to a polite but firm no thank you.
Cool story, bro. Too bad the thread topic isn't about you approaching or not approaching. It's about women.
If they are super attractive, many men are approaching them. They will not approach you. If you want to win the game you have to play to get the prize.
If they aren't all that attractive, they may make the first move.
If they are super attractive, many men are approaching them. They will not approach you. If you want to win the game you have to play to get the prize.
If they aren't all that attractive, they may make the first move.
This is a good point. A woman may be way more comfortable approaching a guy she feels is about her physical level.
If they are super attractive, many men are approaching them. They will not approach you. If you want to win the game you have to play to get the prize.
If they aren't all that attractive, they may make the first move.
Attractive women approach they're just so subtle you wouldn't know it's happening.
Nothing wrong with women ACTIVELY approaching men. By "actively", I mean an overt gesture besides smiling and flipping your hair from across the room. An approach (to me) means going up to the guy, initiating a conversation and asking for his number...perhaps seeing if he'd like to go out on a date.
Ladies will do this from time to time, but only when highly motivated. She either has to find you extremely attractive in some way or you're rich/famous and she figures there's no harm in 'shooting her shot.' I just don't think women have it in them to aggressively and overtly pursue men unless they're top 15% or so (in her eyes). When ladies try cheesy pick up lines on a 50th percentile guy, then we will have come full circle.
''Should Women Be Encouraged to Approach Men They Find Interesting?''
Yes, they should, definitely. There's nothing wrong with this, at all.
I find that most of the men who automatically reject a woman just for approaching them, seem to reside on this forum more than anywhere else.
Yup... and hey always seem be the ones who more afraid of women than a billy goat is of a butchers knife.
And... it's the women who approach who are flawed.... not them.
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