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There is no right or wrong way to go about this. I was with my X for 6 years before we married and it still ended. And there are people who've married after less than a year dating. I have no advice. I'm just happy to see someone on here posting about something positive. Best of luck to you and I hope you two work out.
Hard to say anything cause everyone's relationships are different; but sometimes the same. Too many times, people will convince themselves they won't end up like others. I was very similar to you, dated someone about an hour away only really spent time with on weekends and she wanted more. Difference was, I didn't really commit to her until way later and propose to her until a year and half (still too early in my opinion). I will say in my situation it didn't work out, but that doesn't have any impact on yours.
Do what you feel is right, but never feel pushed or obligated into a situation you don't want to be. I still think you can give it more time, there should be no rush. If she is rushing you then its wrong.
The end of 2018 is 11 months away so there's plenty of time to still get to know each other over the course of the year before making that ultimate commitment. Also, it takes more than a few months for the novelty to wear off and settle into more of a routine, seeing each other at your best and worst, how you handle difficulties, etc.
There isn't any harm in waiting, whereas there could be harm, so to speak, in rushing things.
As long as you truly keep your eyes open this year, that's fine. But if you've made up your mind and are just biding your time with your eyes closed, not good at all. This time is critical - I'd advise spending a lot more time together in as many situations as possible to really see how you work together.
Nothing wrong with thinking about it. If marriage and family is something you want, I'd say not even thinking about it after a few months is a sign the other person is NOT right for you. If someone doesn't inspire happy daydreams about a future together, why are you with him/her?
But give it plenty of time before actually doing anything. Getting engaged and/or agreeing to live together after dating for a year is perfectly reasonable, IMO. Having discussions about what your other goals and dreams and how you handle life and finances and household chores is reasonable during that first year together. Take the time to learn how compatible you are in all areas of life during that first year.
Congrats, I hope it all works out for you. Come autumn, I hope you're back announcing your engagement
Congrats on finding the right woman for you. Your relationship appears to be all that you want/need right now, which is great. Why not continue to enjoy and get to know each other? If it is real, she will be with you
whether you are engaged or exclusive. Slow down, the ring can come later. You know that you are moving too fast.
Congrats on finding the right woman for you. Your relationship appears to be all that you want/need right now, which is great. Why not continue to enjoy and get to know each other? If it is real, she will be with you
whether you are engaged or exclusive. Slow down, the ring can come later. You know that you are moving too fast.
Yes. You are moving too fast but that is all. Nothing wrong with the two of you committing to each other and likely nothing wrong with actually putting that engagement ring on her finger. From then on it's about learning how to put up with each other's ways and cementing that bond.
Get engaged and put off marriage until you've lived together. Win win. She ain't gonna cry about you not wanting to commit, and you can proclaimed your love with all the gusto of romeo without the caveat of separation being a mess. You're welcome.
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