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Well since the regulars know I broke up with my girlfriend at the start of the month, I feel I should confess something. I’m always sprouting about how many rules I have for dating. Some of these include:
- no single moms
- not accepting advances from women who initiated
- no being friends with exes
I have to confess that I broke all three of those rules to date my ex. She is a single mother to an older child, she messaged me out of the blue (we were friends before) and revealed she had a huge crush on me, and after we broke up we still have a pretty good friendship after working out the bad breakup. I feel like I owe the forum an apology for sprouting about all these rules and not even following them myself. I honestly would choose to break them rules again because I had a connection with a really cool person.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m probably still going to prefer to follow these rules for future dating but I’m not going to hold an absolute hard line to them if I really like someone and look at them on a case by case basis. Sometimes when the universe sends someone cool your way you should indulge that connection even if they don’t line up perfectly with your preferred prerequisites.
Conscience cleared.
Well good for you.You're only human and these things can happen.Case by case is the way to go.When your heart speaks to you...one must follow and see where it leads you.
I broke some of my own rules with current SO. I tended to be safety conscious with online dating and would need a few dates before going to a date in the same vehicle or meeting at someone's home. I don't put myself in situations where I might be pressured or give into passion in the heat of the moment. But with him, I felt safe, and I was right.
Part of trusting your gut is, well, trusting your gut when it tells you to do something outside of the norm.
Well since the regulars know I broke up with my girlfriend at the start of the month, I feel I should confess something. I’m always sprouting about how many rules I have for dating. Some of these include:
- no single moms
- not accepting advances from women who initiated
- no being friends with exes
I have to confess that I broke all three of those rules to date my ex. She is a single mother to an older child, she messaged me out of the blue (we were friends before) and revealed she had a huge crush on me, and after we broke up we still have a pretty good friendship after working out the bad breakup. I feel like I owe the forum an apology for sprouting about all these rules and not even following them myself. I honestly would choose to break them rules again because I had a connection with a really cool person.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m probably still going to prefer to follow these rules for future dating but I’m not going to hold an absolute hard line to them if I really like someone and look at them on a case by case basis. Sometimes when the universe sends someone cool your way you should indulge that connection even if they don’t line up perfectly with your preferred prerequisites.
Exactly. I don't get it...why start this thread? To start this nonsense all over again?
She was a "GF" for about 3 mins. Move on to the next victim.
I think he is just seeking validation from others. I don't know anyone who publicizes their dating games on here like he does. Single, not single, single lol
I'll remind you of this thread next time you say "I would never..." or "this is a dealbreaker."
And don't take this the wrong way - but you had a gf for about 5 minutes - actually you had only 2 dates - I get you are proud of it but it I wouldn't call it a "relationship." There is much more to it than meeting twice and texting.
But now that you got your feet wet, maybe it gives you the confidence to approach more women in the future. I hope so because despite your negativity about relationships in general, you do seem to want one.
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I'll remind you of this thread next time you say "I would never..." or "this is a dealbreaker."
And don't take this the wrong way - but you had a gf for about 5 minutes - actually you had only 2 dates - I get you are proud of it but it I wouldn't call it a "relationship." There is much more to it than meeting twice and texting.
But now that you got your feet wet, maybe it gives you the confidence to approach more women in the future. I hope so because despite your negativity about relationships in general, you do seem to want one.
I get what you are saying. I'm learning that absolutes are not really the best way to go about dating. While I am trying my best to be content without a relationship, I definitely want someone to care about.
I think he is just seeking validation from others. I don't know anyone who publicizes their dating games on here like he does. Single, not single, single lol
Agree, attention, validation, and to remind everyone that OP once had a girlfriend for a minute. He mentions her in almost every post.
OP, it's time to be realistic about yourself.
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