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It sometimes takes time and patience to find your groove.
But if it is his first time, you will need to be VERY patient.
Your reaction is very important, because if you are dismissive or critical in any way, you could set him back and make him not want to continue.
Yes....but since we ladies hear so often that men don't get hints, the OP still needs to be very direct. If he takes it badly, oh well. Next thing you know you'll have been faking it for months and he won't know that he's doing it really badly (for you at least). Better to get it all out now and find out if he wants to learn and is actually trainable - I'm afraid you've already spent 3 months getting to this point. :-/
Maybe the worst thing is that it sounds like he didn't really have a clue as to how bad and awkward it was - he seemed to think maybe it was a "5" and you were giving it a "2".
As a woman I wouldn't add the "but" in there...I don't know...I would worry he would feel even more insecure.
I might say "It's good...especially when you do this..." and sort of showing exactly what, and lots of encouragement.
I wouldn't give a past-tense, either. A post-game wrapup or something...this should be during...JMO...
I mean if I were really feeling it for the guy. If I wasn't that into it I wouldn't lie just to lie. But if there's potential there and it's just jitters, that's understandable.
As a woman I wouldn't add the "but" in there...I don't know...I would worry he would feel even more insecure.
I might say "It's good...especially when you do this..." and sort of showing exactly what, and lots of encouragement.
I wouldn't give a past-tense, either. A post-game wrapup or something...this should be during...JMO...
I mean if I were really feeling it for the guy. If I wasn't that into it I wouldn't lie just to lie. But if there's potential there and it's just jitters, that's understandable.
As a woman I wouldn't add the "but" in there...I don't know...I would worry he would feel even more insecure.
I might say "It's good...especially when you do this..." and sort of showing exactly what, and lots of encouragement.
I wouldn't give a past-tense, either. A post-game wrapup or something...this should be during...JMO...
I mean if I were really feeling it for the guy. If I wasn't that into it I wouldn't lie just to lie. But if there's potential there and it's just jitters, that's understandable.
They need to keep the lights on and he needs to watch her eyes.
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